startups – Nick Grant

Nick Grant

Tag: startups

  • Cake And Eat It

    This is a story about a completed jigsaw puzzle…

    Summer house cake

    When I was 28 I was so depressed that I couldn’t work. I couldn’t face the outside world. I couldn’t face the office 9 to 5 Monday to Friday routine. I couldn’t face the glacial pace that projects moved at. I couldn’t face the lack of productivity. I couldn’t face the wastefulness of large organisations. I couldn’t face the dead wood, being dragged along by those of us who wanted to actually create some f**king software.

    My behaviour became erratic. The symptoms my my mood disorder – bipolar – made me a dysfunctional individual for long enough to cause problems in an ordinary office type environment: mainly my lengthy absence due to to the aforementioned depression. Nobody had ever much cared about me being hypomanic in the office, because it allowed me to deliver very complicated projects on time, to a high standard of quality.

    I quit my job in 2008 and sat in my garden making iPhone Apps – mainly games. They sold very well and I was number one in the App Store charts for a brief time. Suddenly, I was earning a lot of royalties and I was comparatively wealthy.

    I decided that I hated office work and corporate IT work – I hated big software projects – but that I should start a small business. I retrained as an electrician. I did all the training, bought a van and started trading.

    Electrician

    My electrician business traded profitably, but I kept getting asked to do freelance software work, which paid twice as much as my electrical work, and I was obviously much better at it, given that I’ve got 20+ years of commercial software experience and about 18+ months of commercial electrical experience. It’s a lot less stressful being a software consultant than it is being an electrician.

    I decided to combine my entrepreneurial side – the iPhone Apps and the small business – to create a startup which would have a software product which could be licensed, so that I could make money while I slept: it was a scalable business model.

    During all this erratic behaviour, I was making a ton of money, I designed a built a beautiful summer house in my garden, I had a wakeboarding boat, I threw lavish garden parties. I was having the time of my life, except I was in a very toxic, abusive relationship.

    I ended the relationship and my life continued to improve. In fact, my life kept on improving.

    Soon, I was enrolled on a prestigious startup accelerator program which takes 8,000 applicants for every place, and only offers 10 teams the chance to be mentored by senior executives from Google, Facebook, Microsoft, Amazon, Paypal and a bunch of other great tech companies, plus the opportunity to pitch on “demo day” to a packed auditorium full of venture capitalists and angel investors, and raise a huge amount of investment.

    My company was already profitable enough to pay my co-founder and I a decent salary and hire our first full-time employee. That was entirely bootstrapped: the company was built from nothing. My co-founder and I built a profitable startup without taking a single cent from any member of friends or family, or risking any of our own money.

    This was my cake and eat it moment.

    I worked too hard for too long. On the accelerator program mentor madness was fine for the teams who just had an idea, but my co-founder and I had a profitable business to run. We had customers who needed supporting. We had sales deals which needed to be closed. The rest of our cohort were happily burning the money they’d raised – making a loss – while our startup was living within its means and growing organically… in fact it was growing rapidly organically.

    The problem was that toxic, abusive relationship.

    She wasn’t kind. She wasn’t supportive. She didn’t want me to succeed. She was just plain mean and totally inflexible; uncompromising. It wasn’t fair, because I had supported her when she wanted to change career, and I had also been a very loyal loving boyfriend. Of course I could have split up with her and run off into the sunset with a lovely girl from the tech startup scene who could see the potential in me and the potential of my startup, but I let loyalty and a sense of “doing the right thing” get the better of me.

    Since then, there hasn’t been a lot of cake eating.

    Divorce became extremely acrimonious in 2013, after a harrowing period when the abuse and the trauma was sufficient to give me PTSD – I was barricaded in rooms and defecating in a bucket to avoid physical harm and at least give myself what little protection I could. Verbal abuse and violent kicking and punching of the door was so frequent it was literally torture. My abuser was keeping me trapped with threats of violence, and I starved, I was thirsty and I had to sh*t and piss in a bucket.

    Mercifully, we separated in August 2013.

    Trauma doesn’t heal overnight.

    The divorce dragged on into 2014, ruining my second startup and depriving me of all my liquid capital – my money – which I needed to start another business. The divorce ruined me every bit as much as the toxic relationship and abusive marriage did. The divorce left me so physically drained, traumatised, financially taken advantage of, exhausted and stressed, that I broke down completely. I ended up sleeping rough. I ended up homeless. I was wrecked.

    Briefly, at the end of 2014 I had a nice apartment in Swiss Cottage, a lovely commute on the Jubilee line to Canary Wharf and a well paid consultancy contract with Barclays. Was I having my cake and eating it? No. The divorce and the separation had caused me such horrible PTSD and financial distress that for almost that whole year I had been sleeping rough and in a homeless hostel. My life was very fragile; my recovery was only green shoots.

    In 2015 I had an amazing apartment overlooking the Thames with panoramic views of all the London landmarks. I had a great consultancy contract with HSBC. Was I having my cake and eating it? No. I was so distressed by the financial troubles I’d had that I worked unsustainable hours and got very sick, and had to be hospitalised. I had to be kept in a secure psychiatric ward for my own safety.

    In 2016 I had the same apartment. I had a great consultancy contract. I was less stressed about the erratic nature of my life and the financial boom and bust, but I certainly didn’t feel comfortable spending money.

    In 2017 I had the same apartment and a great consultancy contract with Lloyds Banking Group. A large blood clot – a deep-vein thrombosis (DVT) – formed in my leg and it caused the complication that my kidneys failed. I nearly died. I was sick for months with agonising nerve and muscle damage. Out of desperation I took a short contract in Manchester. It was so miserable that I tried to kill myself. I very nearly succeed – I was in a coma for 4 or 5 days in intensive care. I was sectioned and kept in a secure psychiatric ward for my own safety.

    By the end of 2017 and into 2018 I had recovered enough to be consulting for an investment bank in London. I was commuting from Wales and staying in crappy AirBnBs. I was well paid but it was the most miserable life. I was homeless, single and coming to terms with having survived a suicide attempt which should definitely have killed me.

    Then I got a consultancy contract in Wales. I had a nice girlfriend in Wales, I had a job in Wales and I had a very nice home in Wales with panoramic sea views. I was about to have my cake and eat it.

    Then, soon after booking a short holiday, my consultancy contract ended early because the project was finished – I worked very hard and delivered early.

    I got another consultancy contract in Wales. I still have that consultancy contract in Wales. I have a girlfriend who I think is amazing and I’m crazy about her. I have very serious feelings for her. I was about to have my cake and eat it.

    Now my consultancy contract is ending prematurely. I worked hard and managed to rescue a very important project which was running late. I was working very hard to deliver our project early.

    Clearly I work very hard. Clearly, I’m lucky enough to create these opportunties where I could have my cake and eat it but so far nothing’s worked out for me.

    It may well be possible for me to still have that amazing holiday we’ve got planned, but it will always be slightly spoiled by the stress of knowing that I don’t have secure income when I get home, which makes me worried about money.

    You can understand why I’m worried about money, can’t you?

    You can understand why it’s so terrible that my holidays get ruined by having my consultancy contracts unexpectedly cut short, especially when I work so hard and make such a big contribution.

    Of course, I could throw caution to the wind and take that luxury holiday anyway. If there’s one repeating theme in this story, it’s that I always bounce back from adversity. I could risk it all and go ahead with that holiday, which I desperately need and want.

    I’ve been lucky. I got to go to Turkish Disneyland on my own. I got to go to Tulum in Mexico. My luck ran out eventually I guess. I have a beautiful girlfriend who is kind and loving and supportive, I have a gorgeous bengal kitten, I have a very nice great big house. I have a little financial security, but paying for a luxury 2-week holiday has a major negative impact on my meagre financial resources, seen in the context of how bad things can get: months in hospital, sleeping rough and nearly dying on several occasions.

    Perhaps it’s just not my destiny to have my cake and eat it.

     

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  • 8 Years Of My Life In 5 Pictures

    This is a story about peaks and troughs…

    Cambridge

    My story begins exactly 8 years ago, on May 4th 2011. I was the CEO of a profitable startup with prestigious clients paying to use my product. It was my idea, I had designed & implemented the system and I had successfully done deals with big companies. I had just started a TechStars accelerator program in Cambridge, run by Jon Bradford and Jess Williamson, and I was about to meet 46 mentors in week of “mentor madness” which is like speed dating, to hook up startup founders with experienced successful people from the tech industry, who were kindly offering to help 10 lucky teams on the TechStars program, along with my co-founder and I.

    I was surrounded by super-smart people in Cambridge. My startup was growing very fast and I had done a great job of getting the company to where it was with very little help. I was hot property – a pin-up for the UK startup scene.

    My co-founder was a much more likeable and charismatic guy who once ran a karaoke bar and had a far better temprament for being CEO, but I wanted the glory of having that coveted job title for myself. I emphatically rejected the suggestion that it might be better for the company if we were to switch roles, and I was to take the position of CTO. Fundamentally I’m good at technology, but not necessarily the best people person: I had, for example, already managed to make my co-founder cry in front of a Google executive. As CEO, I was pretty vicious and ruthless, because I was so desperately ambitious.

    This particular May 4th, in 2011, was a moment when my potential net worth was at its highest. This was my golden opportunity to make my millions.

    London panorama

    This next picture is taken exactly 5 years ago, on May 4th 2014. I had just woken up in the Royal Free Hospital, Hampstead, London. This is the view from my hospital bed. I was surprised to be awake, because my kidneys were failing, my liver was damaged, there was a lot of fluid on my lungs and my heart was not functioning healthily – I had arrhythmias and my blood pressure was dangerously low. I hadn’t expected to survive the night, so it was nice to be greeted by such a pleasant view in the morning.

    By this point, I’d had to resign as CEO, sell my share of the company that I founded. The company still continued to trade very profitably without me and was getting big-name clients, but I had failed, personally. My co-founder stepped in and did a great job of smoothing things over with our investors and our clients, but my own reputation was damaged and I was heartbroken; ashamed.

    I had just gotten divorced and sold my house.

    My dreams were destroyed: I lost my company, my wife and my house. I tried to kill myself. That’s how I ended up in hospital. I was lucky to survive.

    Single speed

    Exactly 4 years ago, on May 4th 2015 it seemed like I was getting my life back on track. I had been doing consultancy work for Barclays, which was very lucrative. Jon Bradford – the guy who ran the TechStars startup accelerator in Cambridge – had written about how I’d “sold out” and gone back to the world of banking and the easy money that was to be made in the Square Mile and Canary Wharf, which was hurtful. I was not happy. I knew I had sold out, but I needed money to pay the bills. I was couch surfing and living in AirBnBs. My life was chaotic. I loved being in London, but it was tearing through my dwindling savings and I was still heartbroken about my divorce and losing my company.

    This photo is interesting, because it predates one of the most insane moments of my life. I was so exhausted and sleep deprived, that soon after this photo was taken I started hearing voices and generally suffering a major psychotic episode. My mind completely capitulated and I was lost to madness, briefly. It seems very strange now, writing about it, when I consider myself to have pretty good mental health, but at the time – 4 years ago – I was extremely unwell.

    London beach

    Exactly 3 years ago, on May 4th 2016, I was skimming stones into the Thames on this little rocky ‘beach’ on the banks of the river, by my apartment. A lucrative contract with HSBC had allowed me to get an apartment with the most stunning views over London and my life was starting to improve.

    I had been an extremely passionate kitesurfer, which had taken me all over the world, seeking out the best wind and waves. During my divorce, having to step down as CEO of the company I founded, and the period when I was very unwell, I hadn’t been doing any kitesurfing. Living by the river on a part which was tidal gave me back the connection to water which had been missing from my life. A friend came to visit and was even brave enough to kitesurf from this ‘beach’ despite the Thames being a particularly treacherous waterway to navigate, especially without an engine – the wind was gusty and unpredictable, but he managed to kitesurf on a ‘beach’ right in the heart of Central London.

    Soon after this pleasant evening skimming stones into the Thames, I went away on a kitesurfing holiday to a desert island off the coast of North Africa, and had a very enjoyable time. 2016 was a good year. I made a lot of money and I had some very nice holidays, as well as meeting the love of my life.

    California rocket fuel

    Exactly 2 years ago, on May 4th 2017, I managed to trick my doctor into prescribing me an antidepressant combo called California Rocket Fuel. I’d had a rough winter where I nearly died from DVT which caused my kidneys to fail, and consequently I had lost a lucrative contract with Lloyds Banking Group. My life had been miserable, with a great deal of pain from the muscle and nerve damage from the DVT. I hadn’t felt well enough to be able to work.

    The love of my life was doing amazingly well in her career – in politics – and was appearing on an almost daily basis on TV, while I was limping around on crutches and taking a lot of very powerful painkillers. I was depressed and I wanted the very most powerful antidepressant I could get, which I discovered was “California Rocket Fuel” by doing some internet research.

    I have bipolar disorder. People with bipolar disorder are not supposed to take antidepressants without a mood stabiliser. Doctors are not supposed to prescribe antidepressants to people with bipolar disorder. I had to be extremely sneaky to obtain this prescription, and it was rather cruel how I manipulated the poor unsuspecting doctor into seperately prescribing me the two medications, which are combined to create “California Rocket Fuel”.

    The result was predictable: Mania.

    I went incredibly manic and my behaviour became erratic. I broke up with the love of my life.

    . . .

    That’s the end of the pictures

    . . .

    When I later regained my mental stability and reflected upon what I had done, I realised I’d made a terrible mistake and I tried to get back together with the love of my life, but my behaviour while manic had been so inexcusably awful that I had ruined any chance of that happening. Agonisingly, she said she still loved me and wanted to take me back, but her family, friends and work colleagues would’ve been apalled that we were back together again. “If you love them, let them go”… it’s been devastatingly hard, but I’ve tried to come to terms with losing the love of my life, and acknowledge that it’d have been very unfair on her to pursue her after what I put her through.

    I left London doubly heartbroken, having lost the love of my life, and leaving the city I’ve spent most of my adult life in. I love London, but it was time to leave.

    Since leaving London, my life has been erratic and unstable at times, but putting the pieces of my broken heart back together again and rebuilding myself to a position of health, wealth and prosperity has been a lot easier than it was in the capital. London placed an enormous amount of stress and strain on me, to generate vast quantities of cash to maintain a high standard of living.

    Today, May 4th 2019, I have a fabulous standard of living. Maybe I’m not going to be a millionaire CEO. I’ve loved and lost a wife and a love of my life. I’ve nearly lost my life during some very bad medical emergencies. I’ve nearly lost my mind. However, despite all the adversity, I’m wealthy, I live in a beautiful big house and I’m reasonably successful when I’m dating, so I see no reason why I’m not going to end up with a very enviable life. In fact, I already have a very enviable life.

    We expect our lives to take a linear path; continually improving as we get older. My life has been chaotic and unpredictable. My life has been through boom times and and bust in the most extreme way imaginable. I’m 39 years old and I didn’t expect to be alive this long. There have been devastating moments, which I thought would destroy me, but they haven’t. I thought my bipolar disorder would make my life so unstable that I wouldn’t be able to regain control and have a good quality of life, but my life is really awesome and it keeps getting better, although it does take a lot of hard work to maintain stability.

    I suppose this overview of an 8 year period of my life, told using 5 pictures, is not going to do justice to the complete story, which is full of hair-raising gory details, as well as some moments of sheer delight, but this brief synopsis does at least give the reader a little insight into who I am, without having to read all the [literally] million words I’ve written and published on this website.

    May the fourth be with you.

     

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  • Trashing Tech

    This is a story about sabotage…

    Macbook damage

    This is my laptop I have with me while visiting my friend. It’s had that damage since 2010. My nice new laptop is away being repaired.

    My Apple watch screen is half-covered with a big black blob. It’s pretty much useless now, so I don’t even wear it anymore.

    I bought a Macbook Air, which got damaged, and I’d spent so much getting it repaired that when it got damaged again, I just sold it for spares and bought my new laptop – the one that’s currently being repaired.

    What is it about me and damaging expensive technology?

    Well, it’s not just hardware. I pretty much threw away an entire tech startup company. My friend and co-founder managed to repair it and keep it profitable, but I had pretty much managed to destroy that company.

    It’s strange. I’m away on a short weekend vacation with my old friend who, 7 years ago, I used to share a house with. We were both doing tech startup companies. We were meeting the same mentors, angel investors and venture capitalists. We were being interviewed by the same journalists. We were with each other 24×7 for a pretty damn intense and important period of our entrepreneurial tech careers.

    I don’t feel embarassed that I screwed up my startup. I’m pleased that my friend’s succeeded.

    What I feel embarrassed about is that one of my arms has scars running along its length, and a big scar that I would usually cover up with my Apple Watch. What I feel embarrassed about is that I’m using my old laptop from all those years ago, and the reason is pretty much the same as why I have all those scars and my Apple Watch is irreparably damaged. I’m a damaged person, and I’ve damaged so much stuff during the on/off period I’ve been sick, which has been most of the last 7 years.

    It’s geek status symbol stuff, to have the latest Macbook Pro, Apple Watch and iPhone X, and I’m the guy who threw away his valuable tech startup, so I guess it’d be foolish for me to pretend like I’m something I’m not – to waste valuable cash on status symbols which I can’t really afford.

    The tough thing though is, I had/have those latest gadgets, but I trashed them in one way or another, and it’s the story of how they got trashed that’s the difficult thing. I want to be the happy, healthy, energy-filled and motivated guy who I was 7 years ago, but I’m not. I’m this broken damaged guy, with his broken damaged old stuff.

    I guess I should just be grateful I’m alive.

     

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  • What’s Missing from this Picture?

    This is a story about unnecessary packaging…

    Holiday essentials

    I’ve had a stressful morning. I had to package my Macbook carefully so that it could be safely sent away to be repaired. I had to locate the original packaging for my Virgin broadband router and box it up so it could be sent back to them, even though it’s defective junk. I then had to find a UPS parcel drop-off point and a Collect+ drop off point to drop off the respective parcels. This required a trip to purchase bubble wrap, a suitable sized box and packing tape, as well as two more trips to two different drop-off places.

    While I was out dealing with those chores, I also had to purchase a piece of carry-on luggage and some flip-flops. The flip flops were sold to me in a box. I don’t know why flip flops need a box – just a simple cardboard clip to keep the left and the right flip-flop together is more than sufficient.

    Anyway, I’m home now. I have located my passport. I have located some leftover Euros I had from the last holiday I took… 22 months ago. I opened the box containing my new flip-flops and lo and behold, there was a discrepancy in the number of flip flops present in the box – 50% of the required number of flip-flops were missing.

    Do I drive back into town, park my car, walk to the shop and explain the situation in the hope that they admit their mistake and remedy it without quibble? Do I just purchase a second pair of flip-flops and then open and check inside the box before i leave the store? Do I just abandon the whole ill-fated exercise, and buy a pair at the tiny departure airport, where the shops will probably be closed? Do I take time out from the one single whole day I get to spend with my friend, without either of us having to worry about airport arrivals/departures, hotel check ins/out and all the rest of that crap, just to go looking for some suitable summer footwear?

    I don’t know why this is making me upset, because I don’t even know if the nerve damage to my left foot/ankle is so bad that I can even wear a flip-flop on that foot. The last time I tried, I didn’t have enough sensation and motor control to keep a flip-flop on my foot.

    Also, my flight’s delayed – French air traffic controllers on strike or something. My flight barely enters French airspace, but whatever… everyone should have the right to go on strike for better pay and conditions.

    My ‘holiday’ is really just a day spent with a friend who I hardly ever get to see, then we both fly home on Monday. I have another week to go before my current gig comes to an end, so I need to make sure I take the money while it’s there on offer.

    “Have you got any holidays planned?” asked a person I spoke to on Friday, which is code for “we want you to work solidly until you drop dead”. We’ll have to see how badly they want me, because I really need a holiday – a proper holiday.

    It seems churlish to complain, but I’ve had a month of hell. Breakup, losing my local job, getting sick, holiday plans pretty much cancelled, the stress of finding a new gig, the prospect of going back to London, the never-ending pressure to generate vast sums of cash to dig myself out of the hole… the hole I can never quite escape from. FML.

    What was supposed to be a romantic beach holiday with my [ex]girlfriend has now turned into a very brief weekend meetup of two old friends. It’d have been far easier for us to meet in London, as he was there yesterday. He’s travelled London -> Prague -> Lisbon -> Faro -> Lisbon -> Prague, and I’m travelling Wales -> Bristol -> Faro -> Bristol -> Wales. Our carbon footprint is criminal.

    Hopefully I’ll be in a better mood when I wake up in Faro tomorrow and I can hang out with my old friend for the whole day, free from commitments and responsibilities… I can put up with sweaty feet.

     

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  • Where Did It All Go Wrong?

    This is a story about dead ends…

    Sinclair A-bike

    Sir Clive Sinclair is a very clever man. So also is Hermann Hauser. So is Dr. Robert Sansom. So are the fellow members of my cohort who were lucky enough to be chosen from a very great number of hopeful applicants for an opportunity to fraternise with Cambridge’s tech elite. We were destined for greatness.

    The pinnacle – the apogee – of an entrepreneurial career in tech would be the moment when you have the undivided attention of a packed auditorium with a total net worth of tens of billions of pounds. Even if only for 5 or 10 minutes, all eyes are on you. It’s your 5 minutes of fame, insofar as any geek can ever expect to have in their lifetime.

    With offensive dismissiveness, the egotistical front man who would claim credit for the meeting of these minds, said my co-founder “was last seen with twins around his ankles” (he actually has 3 young children) and that I had returned to my former career with my tail between my legs.

    Whatever I do, I think I do it with dedication and I achieve results. I obsess over my goals and I work tirelessly to reach them.

    However, I feel old, unwell and somewhat burnt-out; spent.

    If intellect was a good predictor of wealth, we’d see a much stronger correlation between the top exam grades, first-class degrees, doctorates and those who have been lucky enough to earn their fortunes, such that they have the financial means to retire early. If you think that a high IQ and studying hard at school and university is going to help you get ahead in life, you’re sadly mistaken: you’ll be a wage-slave in the rat race, just like everybody else.

    I thought momentarily that I had found a tolerable compromise: a way to enjoy the lifestyle of the trust-fund endowed sons and daughters who can rely on family wealth to bankroll their carefree existence, while only sacrificing a small amount of my time each week to rather boring, menial, unethical and demeaning labour. I struck a deal with the devil, as it were.

    Realising, however, that I was cash rich and time poor, I started work on projects which far predated websites like taskrabbit.com and mybuilder.com. My dot com – getajobdone.com – might not have been a world-class brand, but this was soon enough after the dot com boom [and crash] that I can claim some bragging rights.

    I was too young and inexperienced to profit from the dot com boom, but I was at the very forefront of the iPhone app craze.

    But where did it all go wrong?

    How did I end up back in my old career, as Jon Bradford so astutely [and offensively] observed?

    Fuck you. That’s why: fuck you.

    I make simple plans which seem fairly achievable, like having a nice little apartment with sea views and a yacht in the marina. Simple plans like having a job where I can drive to work in less than 15 minutes and enjoy a 6-figure salary. Then, it all goes to shit, so fuck you. I have it, then I lose it. I get a taste of it, then it’s snatched away.

    Where did it go wrong? Fucking everywhere, that’s where. Everywhere from breakups to losing jobs – through no fault of my own – to the fact that the world is just a crazy competitive dog-eat-dog awful cut-throat world.

    I live a charmed existence, by all accounts, but you should never forget the sacrifices I’ve made. While the rest of you have been creating clones of yourselves and lining the pockets of the banks with your mortgage interest payments, I’ve been cut loose in a world which views a man with no family ties with suspicion. In fact, having no family ties and no local connection to anywhere puts me at risk of destitution; total abandonment – I’m one of society’s unwanted members. No safety net exists for me.

    In 25 hours I’m hoping to be reunited with an old friend whose path through life might see him [incorrectly] labeled as an “overnight success” story. What a world apart, the last 6 or 7 years of our lives have been. How could we ever reconcile the differences in our experiences? Him the millionaire and me the pauper.

    To divine where it all went wrong is an impossible task.

    All I know is that I’m exhausted and I’ve got nothing to show for my efforts.

    I’m not bitter though, I think. I cherish my experiences, no matter how harrowing and traumatic they’ve been.

     

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  • Superstars and Comfortable Men

    This is a story about a life philosophy…

    Maunu Kea

    Here I am stood taking photographs at the summit of the highest mountain in the Hawaiian Islands – an altitude of 13,796 feet above sea level. Sea level is where I started that morning. Any mountain above 12,000 feet will affect susceptible people with dizziness, shortness of breath, weakness and could even present a life-threatening situation for somebody with pre-existing heart or breathing problems. So, dangerous, but not that dangerous. Nobody gets a pulmonary oedema up here, in this cold thin air, but very few can thrive in this oxygen-depleted environment.

    There are ostensibly two ways to get up a mountain: you can walk, or you can use some kind of mechanised assistance (e.g. helicopter, cable car or even drive if somebody has made a road to the summit). I used to scoff at the idea of taking ‘the easy way out’. I used to think that using cable cars and funicular railways in the Alps was cheating… you hadn’t really conquered the mountain at all. However, after my first summer season in Chamonix valley, I realised there’s no point nitpicking over a pile of rocks: most climbers who attempt the North face of The Eiger will use the railway to the summit, which stops halfway to let anybody out who wants to tackle its vertical wall of death. Tourists watch as men and women laden with ropes and other equipment, venture out of a hole that was made to clear the railway tunnel of snow. Are they less brave? Many have lost their lives attempting this ‘easy’ route up the mountain.

    Summit marker

    There you are, see. 13,796 feet. You can see this elevation post in the bottom left hand corner of the previous photo. But how did I get up there, more importantly?

    In 2008 through to 2011, I was bootstrapping. That is to say, I was building profitable business(es) using my own money and with very little outside help. Then, I got out of my depth and I phoned a friend. I begged him to come on board with my latest venture, which promised to have the most growth potential of anything I’d done before, plus it had an overlap – in the education space – with some of my friend’s expertise.

    My friend told me he was a mentor on a technology accelerator program, affiliated to TechStars, which was based in Cambridge and was taking place that coming summer. I have to admit, I’d never heard of Y-Combinator, SeedCamp, 500-Startups, TechStars or any of the other myriad accelerators that were springing up. The idea was simple though: take a bunch of promising teams, incubate them and connect them with the best minds in the world of tech, have a demo day and help them to raise angel investment or venture capital (VC).

    I was enthused and given a new direction. There was hope and relief that I might no longer suffer the isolation and loneliness of being ‘the boss’. I really wanted to be part of this ecosystem.

    I applied for TechStars Boulder, in Colorado, USA, as well as the TechStars affiliate program that my friend was going to be a mentor on, in Cambridge, UK. My company was shortlisted for Boulder, so I flew out to Denver, drove to Boulder and met with David Cohen – one of the co-founders of TechStars. My company just missed the cut for Boulder, but was offered a place on the Cambridge program, which I accepted. On demo day, Brad Feld – the other founder of TechStars – watched my pitch and I got to meet him. I was rubbing shoulders with people who had achieved, or were about to achieve, greatness.

    For example: you know that robot that’s in the new Star Wars movies? The one that’s a ball that rolls around and makes bleeping noises a bit like R2-D2? BB-8, it’s called. Anyway, the toy version of that is based on the Sphero, and Sphero were one of the teams to go through the TechStars program. I got to meet those guys in Boulder. Now they have one of the best selling children’s toys, thanks to a Star Wars brand licensing deal, which was undoubtably in part due to the TechStars program… that’s how it works.

    BB-8

    Once the TechStars program was done, I had two role models to choose between. Both had pregnant girlfriends, but they had very different aspirations and priorities.

    David, co-founder of my business, was intent on making life comfortable for him and his family. He’d made a big sacrifice, living away from home while we were doing the accelerator program. He’d made a risky commitment, ploughing money into a company that – at that time – didn’t really have any protectable intellectual property or reliable and significant income stream. Although I talked him into the idea of taking our company BIG and getting half a million pounds worth of investment to allow us to grow, I think he really wanted to take things a lot slower and more carefully, and more importantly, get back home to his pregnant girlfriend.

    Jakub, who I had been sharing a house with for months along with his co-founder Jan, seemed to be fixated on Silicon Valley and being a BIG success. I hope he wouldn’t be angry with me for spilling the beans that he really regretted coming to Cambridge, UK, when their company could easily have gotten onto one of the Silicon Valley based accelerators, which is where, ultimately, he wanted to end up. Jakub had been obsessed by the trials and tribulations of Apple Corporation, and was 100% a Mac man, not a PC. Whether or not he wanted/wants to follow in the footsteps of Steve Jobs… one only need to look at his professionally taken photograph for his online profile: holding his chin in just the same way as the man who resurrected the struggling Apple Corp, and built it to be the world’s biggest company, by market capitalisation.

    Schopenhauer thought that the best thing in life would be to not be born at all, and the second best thing was simply to keep suffering to a minimum. Nietzsche realised that without suffering, how can we really experience elation? If you take the helicopter to the top of the mountain, you don’t get the same feeling of achievement and success as you do if you walk up there. Nietzsche said that the world needs people like Steve Jobs, who was a millionaire by the age of 23, in 1978, and was worth $19 billion at the time of his death. Nietsche talks about supermen (übermensch) and the last men. Nietsche reviled these “last men” as he called them: men who were comfortable and content with mediocrity; men who would look at the stars and blink, in his words, rather than strive to achieve the very maximum they could in life – becoming superstars themselves.

    I’m now in an uncomfortable in-between place. I neither achieved the übermensch nor the life of comfortable mediocrity.

    Did I give up, because I was overwhelmed by the enormity of the task that lay ahead? Did I simply make mistakes, in choosing business partners who weren’t as ambitious as me; as gung-ho, committed and fearless? Was the lack of support I received from my now ex-wife, my undoing?

    Or, am I – as Nietzsche feared – one of the last men. The ones who are prepared to slave along in miserable existence because I’m not brave enough; bold enough to reach for the stars; to follow in the footsteps of those who’ve reached the top.

    I’m torn, because I believe in socialist & humanist values: I believe in wealth redistribution, state monopolies, free education, free healthcare, free housing and a whole host of other things that would see me labelled as “Marxist”, “Stalinist”, “Leninist”, “Maoist” or some other -ist, meant in the pejorative. Sometimes, I do wonder if people would work as hard, if they didn’t want big mansions, swimming pools, helicopters, private jets, superyachts and all the other trimmings of exorbitant wealth. However, I know enough successful people to know that they just wanted to see a dream realised; a goal achieved: they didn’t know how to stop working so hard, and they couldn’t if they tried.

    Strangely, although I’ve been shown the way and my eyes have been opened to the possibility of achieving great wealth in my lifetime, I’ve been left with nothing but depression. I’m depressed because I can see that hard work is required in life, whichever path you choose, but I’m also depressed because I opened the Pandora’s Box of yachts and supercars and other prized possessions of those who followed their difficult task to completion: they reached the summit of the mountain.

    I used to play a psychological trick when climbing mountains, which is to imagine every summit that you see is a false one, and that behind it will be an even higher summit, so your anticipation of your reward never turns into disappointment, which could lead you to giving up and turning back.

    Another psychological trick I played in life, was never to dream and aspire to own things that were well out of reach. I bought a house, a yacht, a speedboat and a fast car… but these were all modest items that I was able to save up my wages and purchase. I never dreamt of owning a mansion or a brand-new Ferrari, for example, although the latter was achievable if that was my one dream in life, which it wasn’t. I played a psychological trick, of forcing myself to be modest with my aspirations and rein in my ambitions, and to make incremental improvements rather than shoot for the top prize.

    Mountain track

    Now, I take short-cuts. I cheat. I know how high I can get, but I don’t want to make the effort again. It hurt too much to be on the express elevator to the top, and to start to dream about all the wonderful things I could do with that wealth, only to crash to earth and be devastated. I’d like to be comfortable, but even that hurts, because it still requires effort as well as denying that I’d really like to own a nice big yacht, a supercar and a big house.

    Do I begrudge my friends their success? Of course not, but it doesn’t inspire me. Maybe it does inspire others, but when I look around, most people are fighting to just hang onto what little they’ve got. Would I tax my friend heavily because I’m a failure and I want to grab a piece of the wealth he created? Would I expect him to be humble and give credit to the society that helped him get to the top, even though we shouldn’t try to drag everybody down to an equal level – equally mediocre and comfortable, according to Nietzsche? Yes, in a way I do still stand by my politics: I prefer flat structures to pyramids. I like it when everyone gets rich because of co-operation in society, rather than just a tiny handful who get rich at the expense of everybody else. We must remember that we’re playing a zero-sum game – for every billionaire, there are millions of starving mouths and people without clean drinking water.

    My friend was 9 years old when communism ended in his home country. He has been deeply affected. I’m not sure what makes me so certain that wealth should be redistributed, and the vulnerable protected, but I’m certainly going to tip-toe around the subject when I see my friend Jakub tomorrow, which will be the first time I will have had to offer face-to-face congratulations on him reaching the summit: he’s rich now, by most ordinary people’s standards, but I will attest that he build that wealth, with his team: it wasn’t gifted to him by inheritance; it wasn’t stolen or conned; it wasn’t embezzled. He earned it and he deserves congratulating.

    I’m still torn up about that question though: is it better to have 7 billion contented, comfortable people, or 100 or so obscenely wealthy ones, and half the world in desperate poverty.

    In fact, no, scratch that. I go for comfortable. I go for “the last men” even if Nietzsche so hated them. Fuck him, that pompous German twat.

     

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  • Why You Should Never Marry a Partner Who Cheats

    This is a story about what people do when they think nobody is watching…

    Hawaii wedding

    Integrity. What does it mean to have integrity? Let’s explore a hypothetical example.

    The year is 2011. I’m running a profitable tech startup called Hubflow, and we have just been through a 13-week TechStars network technology accelerator program in Cambridge, run by Jon Bradford and Jess Williamson. We have a bunch of investors who are ready to help us raise a seed round. Mike Butcher has written about us in TechCrunch. We are kicking arse.

    The sticking point that is stressing me out is that my partner won’t support me. My company needs to relocate to London, Cambridge or somewhere on the M4 corridor so that I can hire the talent I need and get to my customers and investors whenever I need to see them. My partner is a teacher. She can literally work anywhere in the country.

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    I financially supported my partner through her retraining to be a teacher. She had a huge income drop, when she left the investment bank where we both worked, but I made sure that she still enjoyed the 5-star luxury lifestyle that she had gotten used to with me.

    Even when I quit my salaried job so that I could build my startup, I had substantial savings and profits, to allow us to maintain the same standard of living. I had bankrolled her when she wanted to make a career change, and she’d never had to tighten her belt or compromise.

    This was now my turn to shine. I had done it. I had built a profitable company with a good valuation that was ready for investment to take it to the next stage. It was now time to leave the sleepy little seaside town where we lived and move things closer to the action.

    My co-founder had left his pregnant partner behind in his home town, to come and live with me in Cambridge for several months, while we built our business together and got ourselves ready for investment. He had made sacrifices and compromises with his growing family. Now it was the turn of my partner to step up and make a small compromise herself.

    However, she wouldn’t budge an inch.

    I could have left her. And perhaps – in hindsight – that’s what I should have done. She had never been very kind or supportive. In fact, she was pretty mean spirited and selfish. I don’t know why I stayed loyal to her. I’d had opportunities to fool around while I was working away from home, in Boulder, Colorado, in London or in Cambridge, but I stayed faithful. I stayed faithful because I have integrity.

    I then got very depressed. She had refused any kind of compromise. I had to leave her, or my business was screwed. There was no way that me and my co-founder could make it work over such a geographical hurdle. We needed to be together, on the ground, raising money and winning more customers. And we were so close. It was heartbreaking.

    By the time Christmas rolled around that year, I had gotten so depressed and suicidal that I was hospitalised. My unsupportive mean ex had instructed my parents to come and take me away, and had involved my doctor, all against my wishes. This was an incredible betrayal. Now she wanted me removed from my own home, that I had bought and paid for. This was a horrible act of selfishness.

    Before I was literally dragged away by my Dad, I decided to install a keystroke logger on my personal laptop, which was running my personal account & password. This was clearly an act of paranoia, due to the fact that I was extremely mentally unwell, having recently been released from a mental hospital. Clearly I was out of my mind.

    I was driven away from my home, my business, my friends, my possessions, to a village where I had never lived since the age of 4, where I have no friends. Miles away from any cities where I had business contacts, investors, customers. I had just been totally fucked over. This was not in my best interests. I didn’t even have a doctor or a psychiatrist nearby.

    So then, was my partner interested in my wellbeing? Did she call to see how I was? Was she concerned about me getting better?

    I thought it rather strange that she wasn’t at all involved in trying to ‘help’ me, now that I was out of the way. In fact, it was rather strange that all the ‘help’ was simply to tell people to remove me from my own home. Must have been more paranoia though, right? I was mentally ill, remember?

    I levelled my accusations about being dumped like this, and dragged away from everything I held dear. My partner and parents conspired to keep me trapped in this shitty village in the middle of nowhere. They even involved the police “for my welfare“.

    Anyway, after about a week of this shit, I decided to see if anybody had been using my laptop with my username and password. Strangely enough, and totally co-incidentally, they had been.

    On examination of the logs, it looked like somebody had used my laptop and username to set themselves up an online dating profile and start messaging men. How strange. How curious.

    Surely this could not have been my partner, for if she was using a computer at all, I’m sure it would have been to research the best possible treatment available for me, or to better understand what had happened to me, so that she could be as loving and supportive as possible, no?

    My partner continued to treat me like utter shit and told me that any suggestion I made that she was not acting in my best interests, was purely in my imagination and fuelled by mental illness, paranoia.

    Finally, I showed my hand, and she back-pedalled rapidly, begging my forgiveness and swearing that it was all a misguided mistake. She suddenly became nice as pie and started treating me with a tiny fraction of the respect and decency that I deserved.

    I then had a brief taste of how I should have been treated all along, and it was nice. My stupid mistake was to then marry the evil *****. A leopard never changes its spots.

    Be careful if you get mentally ill with a vindictive, selfish, mean-spirited little **** of a partner, because they might just try to chuck you out of your own house and replace you.

     

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