medication – Nick Grant

Nick Grant

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  • Nasty

    This is a story about being unpleasant…

    Greenwich

    We like to think that niceness, and conversely, nastiness, are innate inherent personality traits, which are fixed immutably at birth. We like to think that the world divides neatly into the nice and the nasty. We might, for example, lazily assume that all criminals are nasty, and that all nurses are nice… to take two very simple examples of commonplace simplified thinking.

    While we might all agree that the world would be better if we all aspired to be as nice as possible, and that the world would be better if we all vowed to never be nasty.

    Sorry. Nope. Won’t work.

    Less than one month from now, every gym in the western world will be crammed full of fat people, who aspire to be thin, and who have vowed to lose weight; who aspire to eat less and who have vowed to get fit. Almost all of those people will fail. They will fail, not because they are bad people but because the circumstances around them, exert such a great force pushing them towards being fat and unfit, and away from being thin and fit, that their limited willpower will not last very long. The short-lived nature of their willpower is not a character flaw, but something which is integral to all of us, psychologically.

    Imagine that I am very fat. Imagine also that I am unhappy about being very fat. Then, create a single hypothetical day of the year, where everyone in the western world all decides, en masse, to join a gym and start getting thin. Most of the reasons for becoming thin always existed: to be more attractive, to be healthier, to live a longer life, to be able to be more fit and active; able to exert more energy doing fun stuff, and not just shifting blubber from one place to another. So, what’s different about New Year’s Day? Nothing. Nothing except that millions of other idiots are all having exactly the same idea, at the same time, so there is an immense social movement, carrying a fat person on a wave of delusional euphoria: “this year I’m going to lose weight!” they all declare, as their New Year’s resolution.

    Why almost all of them fail, is not due to personality flaws, weakness, laziness or even because they are nasty people. They did intend to lose the weight, but if it was easy then they wouldn’t have waited so long to do it, would they? If it was easy, then there wouldn’t be smug thin people, rubbing everybody’s faces in the fact that they’re so thin, would there? Being thin would be nothing to be proud of, and to parade around, if it was easy.

    We might then, re-evaluate the way we think about fat people. Fat people are nice, because they are just minding their own business, doing what comes naturally to them: eating. We cann’t ever say that eating is a nasty act, because we all have to eat, otherwise we die. There is no malice in eating.

    Equally, we should re-evaluate the way we think about thin people. Thin people are nasty, because they are deliberately doing unpleasant things, like dieting and exercising, which are not at all natural, in order to feel superior to everybody else. Thin people are maliciously motivated to parade their thin bodies around, figuratively screaming “look at me you fat fucks… I’m so much better than you are, you bunch of lazy porky cunts”. That’s pretty nasty.

    Looking around, we can find other examples of niceness in unlikely places. Crack and heroin addicts who only steal from rich people and/or from large corporations, like retail chains, in victimless crimes like shoplifting. Ethically, there is no difference between shoplifting from a multinational corporation, or buying their products: neither one harms or benefits anybody. In fact, if anything, the presence of shoplifters creates many jobs, for security guards, police and the manufacturers of anti-theft devices. We can think of crack and heroin addicts who commit acquisitive crime, so long as it’s just shoplifting, as an essential part of a healthy economy; job creators. What about the crack and heroin addicts who have sex with ugly men? How would those ugly men get sex otherwise?

    As you can see: so called ‘nasty’ people can actually turn out to be very ‘nice’, and vice-versa. Anybody who’s ever had to deal with somebody who actively thinks of themselves as a saint, will know that they’re invariably an insufferable cunt… like a doctor who likes to think of themselves as “saving lives” when actually they work as a GP and all they do is make the process of accessing medication into a slow and painfully bureaucratic process, adding zero value and costing everybody a lot of time and money, plus meanwhile preaching holier-than-thou bullshit about how slightly overweight people should lose some weight, unsolicited, to all of their patients, who have no other choice but to listen to the nasty person give their lecture, lest they be refused a handful of pills they could’ve just bought from a pharmacist, cutting the nasty full-of-themselves so-called doctor out of the loop altogether.

    I was going to write, also, about how nice or nasty you are is dictated by how rich you are, and how much pressure and stress you’re under… but that will have to wait for another time. Meanwhile, fuck off.

     

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  • Treatment for Social Jetlag

    This is a story about alarm clocks…

    Kitchen garden

    How many people start the day, jolted from their pleasant slumbers by their alarm clock, repeatedly pressing the snooze button because they want and need more sleep? Is it 50% of the world’s population? Is it 75% of the world’s population? Is it 95% of the world’s population? Certainly, in Europe, North America, New Zealand, Australia – and a bunch of other ‘westernised’ societies – the figure will be exceedingly high. That’s an incredible amount of unnecessary human misery and suffering, in my opinion. Why the hell is society functioning like that, with its most productive members so exhausted?

    I do not subscribe to the rat race, insofar as accepting that social jetlag is an inevitable part of the prime years of my life. I do not accept decades of torturous suffering. I refuse to be part of that.

    Many years ago, I was unable to get out of bed, one morning. I lay in that bed for weeks, paralysed by depression. But, I don’t think it was depression: it was my body’s natural reaction to an abhorrent situation. Nobody should have to get up in the morning, against nature. It’s unnatural. It’s an offence to human existence. It’s toxic to human health and wellbeing. No. No way. Not doing it.

    But.

    It’s almost impossible to fight against the established order of society. Even though almost everybody is exhausted and socially jetlagged, because of the rat race, nobody wants to flinch first; nobody wants to be the person who gives up, lest other eager competitors steal their place in the rat race.

    In an arms race, eventually, the only outcome is the destruction of human civilisation. This is the point that we’ve arrived at: life has become uncivilised in the extreme.

    So.

    What are we going to do about it?

    Let me tell you a little bit about my life. I go to bed at the same time every night, and I always fall asleep quickly. Then, I always wake up before I need to wake up. I never set an alarm clock. I’m never woken up unnaturally: I always wake up, doze peacefully a little longer, start thinking about my day, read a little news on my phone, then get up when I’m ready. I’m almost always among the first of my colleagues to start my working day. Sounds too good to be true? Well, yes, certainly this can’t be achieved without a little cheating.

    How do I cheat?

    Well, that’s really easy, so I’m not going to beat about the bush. The answer is obvious: sleep medication.

    Yes, that’s right, sleep medication is the obvious treatment for social jetlag.

    Sleep medication.

    It’s that simple.

    There are two problems: firstly, your doctor will not give you any effective sleep medication, because otherwise society would be a happier, better rested, and a less miserable torturous place, and we couldn’t possibly have that, could we?!?! Secondly, getting a great night of sleep every night, and waking up naturally every morning feeling refreshed, starting work early without need in alarm clock, is really great so it’s hard to want to go back to being tired all the time, and hating every single morning when the alarm goes off. Obviously, you need a virtually unlimited supply of effective sleep medication, to last you until retirement.

    Good news though: capitalism plans on continuing to manufacture goods and services, for as long as there’s demand. Also good news: while you continue to be useful to capitalism, you will be given tokens which you can exchange for goods and services. More good news: while you have needs and valuable tokens, and capitalism produces goods and services, there will be people willing to facilitate the exchange of those tokens for the goods and services, in exchange for a profit margin. Good news all round: while capitalism demands that you get out of bed unnaturally early in the morning, there will be a plentiful supply of sleep medication, to allow you to cope with the social jetlag.

    Of course, when capitalism collapses, I’m going to have some pretty bad insomnia, but maybe that’s advantageous. When everybody else is sleeping, overcome by exhaustion, I’ll have plenty of extra hours awake to scavenge the looted supermarkets for scraps.

    Don’t waste your time with your doctor: capitalism has already created efficient markets, where you can procure whatever you need at a highly competitive price.

     

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  • Raw Dogging Reality

    This is a story about taking the edge off…

    Mulled cider

    There’s a popular meme which asks what’s classy if you’re rich, but trashy if you’re poor. Among the answers is daytime drinking. Certainly, what gets classed as alcoholism for poor people, is just considered taking the edge off after a long hard day, for the wealthy.

    Drinking and the United Kingdom go hand-in-hand. The weather is pretty atrocious for the majority of the year, and not in a Skandinavian way, with pretty snow and ice, but instead in a miserable grey-skied, drizzly rain kind of way. The UK doesn’t get cosy during winter time, it just gets depressing. While the UK has a bad – but deserved – reputation for being the home of larger lout football hooligans, and horrendous rates of alcoholism, is it any wonder, considering the dreadful weather?

    If we examine humanity’s need for intoxication, we can see that it’s well correlated with dreadful weather. The longer and more miserable the winter, the more people drink.

    Looking at wider habits of intoxication, we can see that life is unbearable, for the majority of us, without something to take the edge off.

    Why then do we fetishise brutal sobriety?

    There’s noting admirable about being teetotal. I’ve been teetotal for a month and a half, and I doesn’t make me morally superior. I’m not a better person, just because I’m not imbibing alcohol. The only reason not to drink is pure vanity: that I’m dieting, and alcohol was contributing the vast majority of calories which I was consuming.

    Without alcohol, I’m struggling. Without alcohol, I’m unstable and finding it almost impossible to plod along at snail’s pace, bored out of my mind. I’m finding it impossible to get through the day: it’s unbearably horrible.

    I do not recommend experiencing raw unfiltered reality. It’s awful.

    Of course, nobody does experience raw unfiltered reality. Everyone drinks. Everyone smokes. Everyone pushes their buttons in some artificial way or another. Everyone takes medications. Everyone finds a way to artificially alter their brain.

    I suppose that when I said we don’t have the Scandinavian kind of cosiness, with warm sweaters, open fires, great central heating, insulated houses and snow outside, we do have a British kind of cosiness: country pubs, with lots of British beer. The Britons have always been big consumers of beer, and never moreso than during the dark, cold winter months. The British adapt to their miserable British winter weather, by retreating to the pub, and drinking more.

    The idea that we should be able to maintain a certain constant level, in all areas of life, year-round, is complete insanity. Of course we need to sleep more when the days are shorter, the nights are longer, and it’s colder. Of course, we need to be less active in the winter. Of course, we can’t work the same hours. Of course, we can’t go outside as much. Of course, we’re going to eat and drink more. The seasons are not constant – there is summer and winter – and neither can we, as biological creatures, be constant either.

    Doing a very extreme diet at the same time as being teetotal, coinciding with the clocks going back, the nights getting longer and the weather getting colder: this is something which is awful to experience, raw and unfiltered. I’m tired, hungry, cold, and I’m hit with the full force of the horrendous anxiety which human existence induces. This world is fucking shit, to experience without anything to take the edge off.

    While the whole world is drinking alcohol, smoking, taking tons of pills, drinking tea, coffee, energy drinks, eating super sugary foods, upregulating themselves with gym workouts and suchlike, and bombarding themselves with a ton of dopamine-inducing entertainment – film, TV, video games, news media, social media, internet, pornography – I’m struggling along, experiencing raw reality, which is truly terrible. Do not recommend. Stay with your trusty pills – you need them!

    The phrase “raw dogging reality” is stolen from a Tweet I saw, but it very aptly sums up the horribleness of human existence, without pills, booze, drugs, cigarettes or any of the other vices which make life liveable.

     

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  • Something to Take the Edge Off

    This is a story about crutches…

    Office chair

    Trawling through my photos from the past three and a half months, I found very few which would be suitable to accompany what I wanted to write today. The photos on my phone are mostly of my cat(s) and not much else. However, this photo does – rather cryptically – allude to what I am now writing about.

    When I started the lockdown, I decided that I wasn’t going to bother with a desk or an office chair at home; that I would muddle by with my laptop on my lap. I decided – wrongly – that it wouldn’t be worth the effort of setting up a proper office at home.

    As I already wrote a few days ago, I started the lockdown drinking copiously. Every day after work, I would pour myself a large glass of wine. I would estimate that my alcohol consumption was somewhere in the region of 8 to 10 bottles of wine per week.

    As I already wrote a few days ago, I started the lockdown physically dependent on medication. Every night I took sleeping pills. Every day I took tranquillising sedatives.

    Then, it became obvious that there would be dire consequences to my physical health.

    I didn’t want to finish lockdown as a fat alcoholic pill-popper with a hunched back.

    Because I delayed setting up my home office, I didn’t have a lot of choice for a desk and an office chair, hence why the ugly garish monstrosity – pictured above – has become part of my home office. The desk is super ugly too. However, it’s good to have a more professional set-up instead of reclining on my sofa.

    The health improvements to my life don’t feel like they’re paying dividends. I still feel overweight, unfit and I still crave alcohol. Ostensibly, I feel much the same as I did when I was guzzling booze, popping pills and spending 16 hours a day reclining on my sofa. However, we must acknowledge that there is a very significant difference between an alcoholic pill addict, and somebody who drinks in moderation at the weekends, and is entirely medication free. That I have stabilised myself and found almost liveable and almost bearable sustainable routine without my crutches, is not an achievement which should be underestimated.

    The backdrop to the past four months has been the global pandemic which has claimed hundreds of thousands of lives, and threatens the livelihoods and living standards of hundreds of millions, if not billions of people. If there was ever a time to feel insecure about money, work and housing, it would be now.

    I wouldn’t describe myself as a particularly anxious person, but the past 5 years of my life have been spent with the threat of destitution hanging over me. I’ve been forced to generate vast amounts of money each year in order to protect my credit rating and employability, as well as to simply pay rent, bills and service debts. The amount of money needed to escape my predicament was so vast that I was forced into high-risk high-stress situations, which were potentially high-reward. Eventually, perseverance paid off. There was no other choice: a crappy salaried job would have inevitably led to bankruptcy; the books simply didn’t balance with some crap paying job.

    So, I’ve suffered 5 years of incredible, immense stress. I’ve suffered 5 years of living on the edge of ruin.

    When the pandemic started to get very bad in Europe my mood improved considerably. The havoc wrought by the pandemic has brought the stress and suffering that I was enduring into the lives of vast numbers of my fellow people. Suffering collectively is far more bearable than suffering alone.

    At some point, I want to stop talking about the difficulties in my past and to talk about the future. I want to put some distance between my past and the present. I want to have a period of wealth and security, which clearly delineates ‘now’ from ‘then’.

    I note that my abysmal childhood became unimportant when I started to have success and get ahead in life, in my late teens and early twenties. My rapidly growing bank balance, exotic travel, status symbols – like houses, cars and boats – and adventurous hobbies, felt like I could forget about past transgressions against me: the bullies and abusers were rotting, and I was thriving, so I wasn’t bitter and angry; I had broken free from the misery of the past.

    My rage at my parents – which has been a repeated theme of the past 5 years – and sad memories of a ruined childhood, which has caused me vast amounts of problems… all becomes irrelevant again, as my health and wealth are regained, and my quality of life improves manyfold.

    Yes, my crutches are going to change from alcohol and medications, to be luxury holidays and other trappings of wealth, but I don’t care. Alcohol and medications lead to misery and death – they’re a dreadful trap, which leads nowhere positive.

    I still have suicide as my ‘retirement plan’ but that’s a simple matter of practicality, given that I’m now unable to be likely to accumulate enough wealth to enjoy a comfortable retirement before my health starts to deteriorate. It’s something I’m going to have to learn to live with. Or rather, it’s something that’s going to kill me. C’est la vie. C’est la mort.

     

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  • Lockdown Improvements

    This is a story about the Coronavirus pandemic…

    Lighthouse

    Many people planned to come out of lockdown with new hobbies, fitter, healthier, happier and myriad other unachievable unrealistic things. I think that we have mostly come out of lockdown fatter, more unfit, poorer, more insecure, lonely, isolated, bored and generally worse off.

    I started the lockdown drinking very heavily and eating McDonald’s breakfast every morning. I decided that if we were going to be suffering the misery of being under house arrest, then I would treat myself. Quickly I realised that I was going to end up with clogged arteries and morbidly obese. I was eating takeaway several nights a week and not doing any exercise.

    I started the lockdown physically dependent on sleeping pills to get to sleep, and using two different tranquillising sedatives to cope with unbearable anxiety. I decided it was too much hassle to try to keep stocked up with the medications I needed during the lockdown, and I calculated that I have enough left to be able to taper myself off. I didn’t want to run out of medication suddenly in the middle of a pandemic.

    I started the lockdown working on my sofa, fully reclined. I realised that my posture and back would be ruined by working in such a position for 8 hours a day, followed by many more hours on the sofa after finishing work.

    Things had to change.

    I thought the lockdown would last a month or two, but I must admit that I didn’t think it would drag on beyond a quarter of the year. I tried my best to psychologically prepare myself for the lockdown lasting for months, but I was hopeful it’d be all over after 6 to 8 weeks.

    I bought a desk and an office chair.

    I weaned myself off the sleeping pills and tranquillisers.

    I cut down my drinking, and even went teetotal for 6 or 7 weeks.

    I started exercising. Not, like, exercising exercising. Just going for a 10km walk every day. Enough to keep me a little bit active, but nothing crazy.

    I stopped getting takeaways. All those takeaways were costing quite a lot of money, when they were all added up. Sure, I felt like I could justify spending the money to enjoy some nice food, as compensation for the doom and gloom of the hundreds of thousands of people dying all over the world, and the restrictions to our freedom… but it wasn’t healthy and it was costing a packet.

    I paid off all my debt. This wasn’t so much a planned thing. It was something that just happened to co-incide with the lockdown. However, it feels pretty damn good to have some savings now. I have a net worth again, which feels good. I have some financial security, even if it is pretty negligible. It had been a very long time which I’d been struggling to get my finances sorted, and it’s a big relief to be back in the black.

    My life is extremely austere and simple. I have my house, my job, my cat, my car; that’s it. My health is probably OK. My weight is OK, although I am carrying some extra weight I’d like to shift, as a consequence of lockdown. My finances are OK. My job seems OK. My housing situation is sort of OK. My kitten is great, although my cat is lost… overall OK. My car has a big dent where an idiot crashed into it during lockdown, in a virtually empty car park, but there are more important things in life than having a shiny perfect car.

    All things considered, I think I’m one of the lockdown winners – I’m emerging in far better shape than I went into lockdown. Some people have lost their job, or are about to lose their job. Some people have struggled with alcohol and food. Some people have struggled with mental health. In almost every area of my life, things have improved; I look reasonably well positioned to weather a difficult autumn and winter.

    Although losing my cat was the worst thing that happened, it has forced me to connect with my neighbours and the wider community, so I have even managed to live a far less isolated and lonely existence under lockdown, than I was living before – I speak to far more people; I’m more connected and socially engaged.

    I thought that if I retreated inwards, living and communicating through my blog and social media, then I would find it impossible to get through the lockdown. It looks like a reasonably good decision, to have taken a break.

    It helps that it’s summer – of course – which lifts my mood and generally creates a more pleasant and favourable backdrop for life, but I feel hopeful that I’ve got a decent position of health and financial stability to fight through the autumn and winter. I just need to book some holidays now… I’ve worked non-stop since early January, when I was discharged from hospital.

     

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  • All The Suicide Methods

    This is a story about the control of information…

    Poisonous Mushroom

    As is often the case, something I have read or watched has prompted me to write. Today, I felt the urgent need to write about methods of killing yourself. I felt compelled to document every single method of committing suicide, which I could possibly think of.

    The reason why I would write this down is that the thing which most often draws visitors to my website is something I wrote about suffocation – asphyxiation – as a means of suicide. People also come who are desperately trying to cure themselves of their problems with mental health, alcoholism and addiction. People visit my website for all kinds of different reasons, but as a source of information on how to kill yourself, my site is one of many millions. Our libraries are full of books which explain in exquisite detail how people have ended their own lives, since we took pen to parchment, or chiselled runes into rock. For those who seek, they will find.

    I’ve noticed a lot of criticism of the owner/operators of forums where suicide is predominantly discussed, and prominent popular indviduals who have large social media followings have been criticised for their participation in the online discussion of suicide which has coalesced around their digital persona.

    We have to be very clear about something here: people need and want to talk about suicide. Making it a taboo subject, and ridiculous fantasies about book burning and the modern-day digital equivalent – banning websites – fails to address any of the underlying causes of why people take their own lives.

    People don’t kill themselves because they’re encouraged by others, online. People don’t kill themselves because they’re able to easily find the information about the methods of suicide. The reasons why people kill themselves are as complex as the individuals who end their lives prematurely, and to point the finger of blame is pointless; futile.

    While it might be true that we see ‘outbreaks’ of suicides which cluster together geographically, almost like a conventional viral, bacterial or parasitic infection, passed from person to person, this does not mean that newspapers, magazines, TV & radio stations and the modern digital equivalents, should never talk about suicides, or the methods. There is no evidence to prove that journalistic guidelines have in any way reduced the likelihood that fellow friends, classmates and other people in the vicinity of a suicide, will commit suicide themselves. We are missing the point: if one person in a particular area of the country, of a certain age, living a certain lifestyle, is compelled to end their life, then why should we be surprised that there are many others who are living on the edge too? It is absolutely untrue that the media and the internet is in any way shape or form responsible for pushing and/or prompting people to end their lives.

    We also have to answer the difficult question: is it ethical to force a person to live a miserable and unbearable life? Is it unethical to force a person to endure unending suffering?

    A documentary I was watching particularly annoyed me when a so-called expert came onto the program to say that suicidal thoughts are usually fleeting, and quickly pass; they essentially said that depression is temporary – in a particularly dismissive manner – and that we should shut up and put up with it. This made me furious.

    People don’t end their lives whimsically. Suicides are meticulously planned. The formation of the idea of killing one’s self is something that has taken place during years of terrible suffering. I say that it is unethical to act in any kind of way to prevent a suffering person from achieving relief from the terrible torments which they have decided are too unbearable. It’s their life at the end of the day. It’s selfish to ask them to keep living an intolerable miserable suffering-filled existence… for what reason? So that you don’t feel sad? Get over yourself. Get a grip. Have some compassion. Show a little empathy.

    I believe strongly that suicides are 100% preventable, and that we should aim for zero suicides – nobody should ever commit suicide. However, the solutions are well beyond the scope of this essay, and ask the reader to think the unthinkable, such as improving people’s lives, instead of fobbing them off with cheap anti-depressant tablets and abysmal “behavioural therapy” courses developed and delivered by a group of people with the collective IQ of a slug. The evidence is clear: suicide is the number one killer of men under the age of 50, and the suicide rate in young girls and women is growing faster than ever before. Yet, the approach remains unchanged: ineffective medications and ineffective psychological therapies. Also, the circumstances get worse and worse: youth unemployment soars, personal debt soars, global warming and climate change rages out of control, and the chance of having a fulfilling happy life diminishes by a vast amount every single day.

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    So, you came here for the good stuff, right?

    OK, here are all the ways you can kill yourself, separated into some different sections.

    Poisonings and Overdoses

    Almost every substance which a normal person can obtain will result in a slow and painful death. Anybody can find a poisonous mushroom or plant – such as deadly nightshade or hemlock – which will kill you, but it will be extremely unpleasant. It’s possible to purchase a large quantity of paracetamol, for example, which will easily cause fatal liver failure, but this is a particularly slow, painful and unpleasant death.

    Deaths by overdose are hard to achieve with so-called ‘safe’ modern medications. Your doctor is unlikely to prescribe you enough opiates to allow you to kill yourself, unless you stockpile your supply, and slow-release formulas can make it hard to commit suicide using swallowed tablets. Barbiturates, which are the number one choice of doctors who wish to commit suicide, are never prescribed. There are deadly medications, such as warfarin, but to obtain them is almost impossible.

    Were you able to obtain a poison such as strychnine or cyanide, your death would be surprisingly slow and painful. Potassium cyanide particularly, would not be a pleasant easy death, unless combined with a large dose of sedative and a painkiller, because it essentially induces a heart attack.

    Blood Loss and Other Trauma

    The body has developed very advanced mechanisms to cope with severe lacerations, and blood vessels will spasm and contract to contain loss of blood. The arteries are generally well protected by the anatomy which has evolved to keep us alive.

    Generally speaking, cutting the jugular vein(s) is a reliable method of suicide, but there are many variables: the blade must be sharp, the aim must be true, and the cut must be made with force and certainty. It’s more likely that you will end up with a profusely bleeding laceration than a lethal wound.

    Cutting one of the carotid arteries must surely be the most reliable way of killing yourself with a knife or razor blade, but detailed anatomical knowledge and a willingness to undergo immense pain, while conducting this surgery on yourself, makes the task almost impossible.

    Plunging a sharp object in-between your ribs and into your heart or one of the biggest blood vessels in your body will kill you very quickly, but the chance of you hitting your target is low.

    The Japanese Samurai favour disembowelment as an “honourable death”. Do not recommend.

    Self-immolation would be incredibly painful, and your death would be caused by suffocation: the flames would consume the oxygen from around your body, and your lungs would be burned so badly they would not function. Definitely do not recommend.

    Falls From Height

    Yes, these will kill you. There is a well documented case of a man who survived a fall from the Golden Gate Bridge, which is about 67 metres (or 220 feet for those who prefer imperial units). In rock climbing terms, that’s about 1 rope length, and there are lots of documented cases of rock climbers who have fallen from the top of a cliff and survived.

    This is all about the height, and the surface you’re landing on. Maximum height and solid landing surface = more certain death. I would say that 8 storeys or more, landing on concrete, rock or something similar like that, would guarantee ‘instant’ death. Bear in mind that you would need to jump and also endure the fall, which would both be very traumatic, but it would be a ‘quick’ death versus a poisoning or overdose, for example.

    Hanging

    Most people who have hanged themselves have died from asphyxiation, and have suffered an incredibly awful death. Death by hanging has a high success rate, but we should be mindful that the final period of that person’s life was unimaginably terrible. To asphyxiate elicits one of our most primal panic responses – the hypercapnic alarm response – and we know that many people who have hanged themselves have taken 30 to 90 minutes before they have finally expired. This is one of the most unpleasant deaths I can imagine.

    For a hanging to be a quick death, the neck should be broken or the body should be decapitated – either outcome achieves the desired outcome, which is a quick death. It would be advisable – although I advise nobody to commit suicide, of course – to err on the side of caution, and ensure that the ‘drop’ is sufficient to break the neck at the very least, and if decapitation occurs, then it’s far preferable to the alternative: a lengthy asphyxiation.

    Electrocution

    Most modern domestic and commercial electrical systems are fitted with systems to prevent electrocution, and as such you would be unlikely to be able to electrocute yourself by, for example, dropping an electrical appliance into the bath-tub while you were in it.

    In the interests of a full and frank exploration of all the available suicide options, I must tell you that it’s possible to obtain a lethal electrical current by simply removing the cover of your fuse box, where there are live parts which do not have the protections which you have throughout your house or other premises.

    Touching a live electrical conductor will hurt, a lot, but it won’t kill you. In order to kill yourself by electrocution, you must first grip something which is earthed – such as a copper water pipe or the earth clip for your house, usually marked with green and yellow striped insulation – and then touch the live source of electricity with your OTHER hand. Then, the electrical current will flow across your body, through your chest, and your heart will either be very badly damaged or at least enter ventricular fibrillation, where it is unable to pump blood, causing you to lose consciousness immediately.

    It’s possible that you might only receive a ‘mild’ electrocution, leaving you with very bad burns, tissue and nerve damage, but otherwise alive. For this reason, it’s probably inadvisable for anybody except a trained electrician to commit suicide using this method.

    Asphyxiation, Drowning, Suffocation etc

    As I wrote before, the hypercapnic alarm response, which is your body’s natural reaction to high carbon dioxide levels in your bloodstream, will cause incredible panic and suffering. As such, drowning yourself by attaching weights to your body and jumping into water, would be a terrible, terrible death. Do not recommend.

    To attempt to suffocate yourself, perhaps by putting a plastic bag over your head or other somesuch thing, would result in the elicitation of the hypercapnic alarm response and you would tear the bag off your head, driven by instinct. Your primitive survival instincts would override the neocortical modern brain, which we have unfortunately evolved, leading us to want to commit suicide in the first place.

    In order to asphyxiate in the manner which we would all wish to die, which is painlessly and peacefully, the solution is simple: we must breathe a gas which contains no oxygen or carbon dioxide. To breathe the gas from your oven puts your neighbours and firefighters at risk, because a gas explosion will be the likely result. Instead, a bottle of helium can be purchased inexpensively, for the usual purpose of filling baloons. Instead, the helium should be used to provide a steady supply of gas to some kind of ‘hood’ which you wear. By breathing an inert gas like helium, you will quickly lose consciousness and death will follow within some minutes, as your body and brain are deprived of oxygen.

    Other

    There are things which might work, but are more likely to cause you incredible pain and injury, such as injecting yourself with a bubble of air.

    You could obviously starve or dehydrate yourself to death, but this would be time-consuming and result in a slow and painful death, with much suffering.

    For those who live in places where firearms are easily obtained, I don’t know why you’re even reading this: if I could get hold of a gun I’d already be dead, I’m sure. That’s not to say that gun control is preventing my suicide; merely that there are easier ways to kill yourself in a country like the UK, but I foolishly have opted for methods which were unlikely to kill me, such as poison, overdose and cutting veins.

    The number of ways to cause your body a traumatic injury are innumerable, but an example might be to turn off the airbag on your car and then drive without a seatbelt at 100mph into a concrete pillar which is supporting a bridge.

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    As you can see, the options are multitudinous and you really don’t need me to list them. You already knew almost all this stuff, and if you didn’t, it was available on a million websites; it was one single Google search away.

    As for the charge that I am encouraging, endorsing, glamourising or enabling suicide in any way whatsoever, you are barking up the wrong tree. Look again at the suffering. Look again at the causes of that suffering. Look again at the options available to the victim of that suffering. If it was possible for a suicidal person to endure any longer, they would. If there was an easy option, like a magic pill from a magic doctor who lives in a magic building, then we would see suicide rates falling not climbing. The medical establishment claims to want to preserve life, and it claims to be empirical and evidence-based, yet all the evidence shows that medicine is failing abysmally to deal with the number one killer of men under the age of 50; the fastest growing cause of death of young girls and women. Medicine can f**k off – it’s had plenty of chances to do something about the suicide and mental health epidemic, but instead it has rested on its laurels and dished out useless pills, and allowed intolerable living conditions to grow, flourish and proliferate.

    If you think my article is somehow dangerous and irresponsible, I suggest you seek your first recourse with those who claim to be practicing so-called medicine, when all the evidence shows that the medications and treatments prescribed are entirely ineffective, and the mental health epidemic and suicide rate are the number one public health emergency, yet your doctor is doing nothing about it – they have their head buried in the sand.

    For those of you who came here looking for information on how to commit suicide, I empathise. I’ve attempted suicide several times. If you want to talk to somebody who lives with suicidal thoughts on a daily basis and has tried every conventional treatment you can possibly imagine, who won’t try to “talk you out of doing anything” or otherwise patronise you, my Twitter DMs are open and my email address is publicly available.

    If you’re suffering, I’m sad about that. I wish people didn’t have to commit suicide, but sometimes they do, because the suffering is too unbearable.

     

    Still thinking about killing yourself? Please read my essay on how to kill yourself.

    Want even more? Please read about why I am planning on committing suicide.

     

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  • An Apology

    This is a story about remorse…

    My kitty

    There’s a lot of good reasons why we don’t steal people’s medication.

    Firstly, theft is illegal. There is no defence against the crime of theft. You could rob a bank and claim that you were going to give the money to charity, but I’m afraid that’s no defence. You could claim that you didn’t know theft was a crime, but ignorance is no defence. You could claim that you were keeping somebody safe, by stealing something of theirs that was dangerous: perhaps you stole a fast motorbike, and your defence is that you wanted to prevent injury or death. Unfortunately, while these arguments might give the court judge cause to be more lenient in their sentencing, the crime of theft is a clear-cut thing: you simply need to permanently deprive the owner of something that they own, and you have committed a crime. No defence. It’s a crime. It’s that simple.

    Secondly, some medications require you to have a prescription to have them in your possession. There are lots of medications which are controlled drugs and as such, to have stolen those medications would mean that you have committed a second crime: possession of a controlled substance, without a prescription. Again, there’s no defence for being in possession of a controlled substance without a prescription, unless you have signed documentation proving that you are authorised to collect a prescription from a pharmacy, on somebody else’s behalf.

    Thirdly, some medications will cause seizures and death if the patient abruptly stops taking them. Many medications raise the seizure threshold, and when medication is stolen and the patient is forced to abruptly cease taking the pills, then the seizure threshold is lowered so substantially that the result is very bad seizures – grand mal – which can cause physical injuries as well as death. This would be gross negligence, or gross negligence manslaughter in the event of a death.

    Fourthly, while incredibly ignorant people might think that they are being “helpful” by stealing medications, if their fantasies are incited by other people – abusing a position of respect and making misleading representations that they know what the f**k they’re talking about – then those people become part of what’s called a joint enterprise or common purpose crime. It doesn’t actually matter who committed the crimes – all the parties in the conspiracy are equally guilty.

    Fifthly, it does not even matter if the crime(s) are actually committed or not. If there was a conspiracy to commit a crime which was never acted upon, then that conspiracy can still be prosecuted as a crime.

    In short, don’t steal other people’s medications, or even plan or advise to attempt such a thing, because you are breaking at least four laws. Criminal law is not based on precedent and interpretation. It’s open-and-shut: you clearly broke the law, so you must be prosecuted and punished.

    Because I suffer from Bipolar Affective Disorder, I am prescribed lamotrigine, which is an anticonvulsant. Epileptics are prescribed lamotrigine, because it raises the seizure threshold. It is extremely dangerous to stop taking lamotrigine abruptly, whether you are epileptic or not, because you are likely to have life-threatening seizures.

    My ex-girlfriend, with incitement from 5 others acting in a criminal joint enterprise, conspired to steal a large number of different medications from me, with no fewer than 3 of the medications being likely to cause seizures, injury and death, when I discovered the theft and was unable to take my pills as normal. The theft was a smash-and-grab, where there was clearly no consideration for the immense harm that was likely to come to me, but also, medications were stolen in a manner that clearly proved that it was an act of incredible stupidity; utter recklessness and shocking ignorance.

    Would you rummage through the drawers and medicine cabinet of a home in which you were a guest? If you were so incredibly rude and privacy-invading as to do so, and you happened to find items which were embarrassing, would you tell all your friends? Would you humiliate the poor person who trusted you to act with the duty of care towards their privacy, which they were owed?

    It shocked me when a friend sent me a message asking about a particular medication – which it later emerged had been stolen – and was mocking and humiliating me about this. My most private, confidential, embarrassing, secret and sensitive medical information had been abused in the most horrible disgusting way. Without a single care about violating my dignity, humiliating me, embarrassing me and betraying my confidence, my ex-girlfriend carelessly boasted to her co-conspirators about the medications she had stolen from me. This medication can be bought over-the-counter in any chemist, without a prescription, has no abuse potential and has no potential to cause an overdose. Why steal it? Why boast to her co-conspirators she’d stolen it?

    I did get an apology from my ex-girlfriend, but I doubt she feels any remorse. I suspect it would take criminal prosecution for her to realise that her actions were wicked and wrong, and there was no excuse for the risk she placed my life in, the violation of the sanctity of my private home, the violation of my dignity, the humiliation and embarrassment she caused me by violating my confidential medical details. She’s a horrible person, although I will say that without the incitement of the co-conspirators in the criminal joint enterprise, she would have been less likely to commit the crimes – although this does not forgive her behaviour, nor absolve her of her crimes.

    Getting an apology out of the ex-friend who was a co-conspirator in the criminal joint enterprise, who then began to criminally harass me, sending me numerous unwanted offensive messages, emails and letters, which caused me a great deal of humiliation and embarrassment, violated my dignity, and was particularly intimidating regarding the confidentiality of my private medical details.

    My ex-girlfriend’s mother did feed my cat while I was in hospital, which was very kind of her, and I want to thank her, but when I arrived at my ex-girlfriend’s house and demanded the return of my keys, the atmosphere was not conducive to saying thank you for the mother’s kindness, which she had shown to my cat.

    I suppose when you are faced with an individual who has threatened to pursue criminal charges against your daughter, the parental instinct probably kicked in and she would have denied that her daughter was a murderer, even if she’d seen her plunge the knife repeatedly into the victim’s body.

    Anyway, this is a simple message: don’t steal people’s stuff, OK. Especially medication, which is a matter of life-or death. If somebody tells you that it’s “OK” or “the right thing to do” then they’re wrong – they are inciting you to commit a crime, and they themselves are co-conspirators in that joint enterprise crime too, and will be prosecuted equally under the law.

     

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  • I’m [Not] OK

    This is a story about keeping people updated…

    Invert

    It’s been nearly 2 weeks since I wrote last. I know I’ve had gaps but this feels like a really long one. Gaps are usually a very bad sign. It’s worth worrying about me if I’m not writing. Things are probably going badly if I’m not writing.

    I was coping by using a combination of alcohol, sleeping pills, tranquillisers/sedatives and a heck of a lot of comfort eating. I’ve been teetotal and medication-free for a while now. I’m dieting too. I’m slimmer but I feel awful. Stopping taking all the pills has been brutal. Not having anything to ‘take the edge off’ has been horrible. The anxiety has been unbearable.

    Some concerned friends have sent me messages, but I’ve felt too swamped to reply. Work is exhausting and there has been the looming holiday, which has caused added stress rather than being something to look forward to: How am I going to afford the loss of earnings as well as the expense of the holiday? My work situation is looking very uncertain for when I get back from holiday, which is a horrible situation to be in, worrying about money instead of enjoying some well-earned time off.

    My relationship is good but it’s caused some sleepless nights. I’m desperately trying to avoid worsening my exhaustion and sleep deficit, but it’s almost impossible to catch up. Stopping the sleeping pills has caused my sleep quality to deteriorate. It’s a miracle that I’m still reasonably productive and functional.

    The last thing I want to think about is the travel and logistics of going abroad. Buying holiday clothes sounds like fun, but it’s another item on a todo list which makes me very stressed out. I’m struggling to figure out when I can fit in all the things I need to do between now and my departure date from the UK. I suppose as long as I’ve got my passport and a buttload of cash then I can figure things out, but it’s not pleasant to be so ill-prepared for a trip.

    I’ll be 40 years old in exactly one week. I decided to have a barbecue at my house when I was feeling somewhat more buoyant about the way my life was going. Now I feel like cancelling the gathering, because I’m stressed about the extra unnecessary hassle. Having guests over to my house reminds me that I’ve still barely moved in – I don’t have much furniture and the place is a bit of a mess. I don’t feel well placed to make my guests comfortable. I have a lot of anxiety about it being a really awkward occasion, with a handful of my long-suffering friends having made the long journey to the provinces, in order to make smalltalk with strangers… a real chore for them.

    I’m working as hard as I can in order to feel proud about my contribution to the project I’m working on. I’m desperate that my contribution be remembered as something valuable and that my colleagues recognise the effort I’ve ploughed in. Work’s become a bit of an unhealthy obsession and I’m significantly over-invested, emotionally. I can picture myself getting very depressed when I’m forced to leave the project because of contractual shenanigans, and through no fault of my own.

    My life is deeply unbalanced; unhealthy. I’m not drinking alcohol and I’m dieting, so I’ve lost weight, and I’ve managed to get a bit of sun, so I look quite healthy, but inside I’m very sick. The stress of the past years seems to have ratcheted up as my life has become more ‘normal’ and ‘stable’ recently – things were easier when I was living out of a suitcase, in some ways, although I appreciate that I was very miserable and living much more unhealthily.

    Readers who’ve followed me for any significant length of time will probably have a better idea than me as to whether I’m in a better place today than I was a few months ago, a year ago, several years ago. Things feel terrible but they probably aren’t.

    The stresses seem to be the same as ever, particularly concerning my security vetting. A colleague contacted me to say they were reading my blog. They seemed enthusiastic about the prospect of working with me, despite what they’d read, and the feedback seemed generally positive. It’s the first time that a colleague has been brave enough to tell me that they’ve been reading my blog. Of course, the security vetting people have been reading too. I wonder if the security vetting people are as sympathetic to my stresses, and look favourably upon my ability to maintain an impeccably high standard of professionalism in the office, whilst undergoing some horrendous chaos in my personal life; struggling so much with my mental health. I wonder if all the talk about being sympathetic towards mental health issues is just hot air.

    I wanted to write a short update, because I know people are worried about my uncharacteristic quietness. I’ve kinda failed. I’m doing OK, but I’m also really struggling too. Plenty of reasons to be concerned, but things are not completely ruined and on collision course with disaster… in fact I might even weather this storm and emerge in a reasonably good situation.

    I’ll try to write a little more regularly, but I don’t want to be a stuck record, endlessly moaning about how unpleasant the effect of stopping medication is. I don’t want to wallow in misery.

    It’s summer. I have money. I have employment for a little while longer. I have an awesome holiday booked. I have a very nice girlfriend. I have a cute kitten. I have a big house. Things are not terrible.

    I’m not taking any medication, not drinking, dieting. I’m losing weight and my brain is getting back to a stable state without any alien chemicals. It’s good to be free from the shackles of chemical dependency.

    If I can push through this tricky period and keep the wheels turning, then I think my forties are going to be a much better period of life than parts of my thirties. It does feel good to be turning a corner as I reach an age when I should be growing old less disgracefully.

    I’ve written more than I wanted to but I hope you’ll forgive me. You’re all up to date now.

     

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  • Beach Body

    This is a story about going on a diet…

    Flip flops

    571 days ago I decided that I was allowed to drink heavily and eat whatever I wanted. I had at least a bottle of wine every day and ate mostly fast food. I decided that this was my reward for working virtually non-stop: to guzzle gallons of alcohol and devour mountains of fatty food. My evenings were spent in McDonalds, KFC, curry houses and pizza places. My evenings were spent drinking glass after glass of red wine.

    Unsurprisingly, I put on weight.

    I was living in a hotel for a while, which was next door to a gastropub. I lived on calorific food, like lasagne & chips, washed down with large glasses of red wine. When I got back to my hotel room, I would continue drinking large glasses of wine. I decided that it was my reward for the miserable life of living in a hotel, to eat and drink with gay abandon.

    I put on more weight.

    Then, I noticed that I was putting on weight. I noticed that I had a tummy. I got out of the shower one day and I saw my own reflection in the mirror, and I realised that I had gained a belly. I’ve never really had any problems with my weight, so I was kinda shocked, although by this point I had been gaining weight steadily for roughly 9 months.

    I didn’t change my behaviour.

    I did stop living in the hotel. However, I lived on takeaways and beer. I had a takeaway almost every night of the week, and I washed all that fatty food down with vast quantities of beer. I was going to the supermarket on an almost daily basis to re-stock the fridge with beer.

    Then I stopped drinking.

    My alcoholic friend killed himself. He drank himself to death. His alcoholism had raged out of control for a long time and hadn’t claimed his life, but health complications quickly began to create a compounding problem and he knew that he was going to die; his quality of life was rapidly deteriorating. This event, coupled with my unhappiness about being a little overweight, was enough of a catalyst for me to quit drinking.

    I was teetotal for nearly 5 months.

    Then, I started drinking heavily, eating restaurant food and having takeaways on a regular basis. I drank loads of white wine and ate lots of very rich gourmet food. I had lost some weight by simply being teetotal. I had reached a point where my weight was under control and I felt better about my appearance, but then I quickly undid that by drinking and eating so much.

    Now, I’m trying to lose weight again.

    I’m not trying very hard to lose weight. All I’ve done is cut my daily calorie intake. I’ve stopped drinking – mostly – and I’ve stopped having takeaways and restaurant food – mostly – and I’ve stopped having large lunches. I’ve stopped eating breakfast. I’ve stopped snacking. On average, my weekly calorie intake has been cut pretty drastically.

    I still don’t do any exercise.

    I joined a gym at one point, but I never actually went. The circumstances of my job changed and I found myself living in the hotel. It was hard to motivate myself to go to the gym when I had the miserable existence of living in a hotel. The highlight of my evening was my gastropub meal and red wine, so I can’t imagine that there’d have been much point going to the gym.

    I should do some exercise.

    I’m making some very big changes to my medication at the moment. I’m tapering off high doses of tranquilisers and sleeping pills, in order to be medication-free by the time I go away on holiday, the day before my 40th birthday. I have less than a month to rid myself of physically addictive benzodiazepines and highly psychologically addictive sleeping pills. I have a horrible month ahead of me, filled with rebound anxiety and rebound insomnia. It’s not easy to stop taking medication and it’s extremely unpleasant to rapidly stop. Going cold turkey is not even an option – I could have seizures.

    I’m making good progress.

    Apart from last night, where I got extremely drunk and ate a gigantic burger and chips, Friday night where I drank two bottles of white wine, and Monday evening when I had a takeaway, I’ve not been drinking, eating takeaways or eating in restaurants. I’ve also managed to reduce my sleeping pills by 33% and my tranquilisers by 50%. I’m changing a lot of things all at once. It’s very difficult to change so many things all at once, especially while I’m going through a very stressful high-pressure period at work, with some very demanding tight deadlines.

    It’d be wonderful if I was superhuman and I could work full-time, have very little sleep, write every day, look after my kitten, keep my house clean, quit drinking, go on a diet, stop taking addictive medication AND do some exercise, but I’m afraid that it’s too much to ask – the exercise will have to wait until life gets a little easier.

    I know that I’ll get more enjoyment out of my holiday if I’m fitter and in better shape, but the holiday is the respite I desperately need; the rest and recuperation; the reward for 571 days of almost continuous work, with the exception of a week-long jaunt to Turkey and two weeks in Mexico. My last holiday was nearly 7 months ago, and I’ve been through a house move and a breakup, as well as working exceptionally hard.

    The beach body will have to wait, although my small lifestyle adjustments will help. The weight isn’t just going to magically disappear, but I shall have to content myself with stopping the rot – I simply haven’t got the bandwidth to be able to exercise on top of everything else on my plate.

     

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  • 8 Years Of My Life In 5 Pictures

    This is a story about peaks and troughs…

    Cambridge

    My story begins exactly 8 years ago, on May 4th 2011. I was the CEO of a profitable startup with prestigious clients paying to use my product. It was my idea, I had designed & implemented the system and I had successfully done deals with big companies. I had just started a TechStars accelerator program in Cambridge, run by Jon Bradford and Jess Williamson, and I was about to meet 46 mentors in week of “mentor madness” which is like speed dating, to hook up startup founders with experienced successful people from the tech industry, who were kindly offering to help 10 lucky teams on the TechStars program, along with my co-founder and I.

    I was surrounded by super-smart people in Cambridge. My startup was growing very fast and I had done a great job of getting the company to where it was with very little help. I was hot property – a pin-up for the UK startup scene.

    My co-founder was a much more likeable and charismatic guy who once ran a karaoke bar and had a far better temprament for being CEO, but I wanted the glory of having that coveted job title for myself. I emphatically rejected the suggestion that it might be better for the company if we were to switch roles, and I was to take the position of CTO. Fundamentally I’m good at technology, but not necessarily the best people person: I had, for example, already managed to make my co-founder cry in front of a Google executive. As CEO, I was pretty vicious and ruthless, because I was so desperately ambitious.

    This particular May 4th, in 2011, was a moment when my potential net worth was at its highest. This was my golden opportunity to make my millions.

    London panorama

    This next picture is taken exactly 5 years ago, on May 4th 2014. I had just woken up in the Royal Free Hospital, Hampstead, London. This is the view from my hospital bed. I was surprised to be awake, because my kidneys were failing, my liver was damaged, there was a lot of fluid on my lungs and my heart was not functioning healthily – I had arrhythmias and my blood pressure was dangerously low. I hadn’t expected to survive the night, so it was nice to be greeted by such a pleasant view in the morning.

    By this point, I’d had to resign as CEO, sell my share of the company that I founded. The company still continued to trade very profitably without me and was getting big-name clients, but I had failed, personally. My co-founder stepped in and did a great job of smoothing things over with our investors and our clients, but my own reputation was damaged and I was heartbroken; ashamed.

    I had just gotten divorced and sold my house.

    My dreams were destroyed: I lost my company, my wife and my house. I tried to kill myself. That’s how I ended up in hospital. I was lucky to survive.

    Single speed

    Exactly 4 years ago, on May 4th 2015 it seemed like I was getting my life back on track. I had been doing consultancy work for Barclays, which was very lucrative. Jon Bradford – the guy who ran the TechStars startup accelerator in Cambridge – had written about how I’d “sold out” and gone back to the world of banking and the easy money that was to be made in the Square Mile and Canary Wharf, which was hurtful. I was not happy. I knew I had sold out, but I needed money to pay the bills. I was couch surfing and living in AirBnBs. My life was chaotic. I loved being in London, but it was tearing through my dwindling savings and I was still heartbroken about my divorce and losing my company.

    This photo is interesting, because it predates one of the most insane moments of my life. I was so exhausted and sleep deprived, that soon after this photo was taken I started hearing voices and generally suffering a major psychotic episode. My mind completely capitulated and I was lost to madness, briefly. It seems very strange now, writing about it, when I consider myself to have pretty good mental health, but at the time – 4 years ago – I was extremely unwell.

    London beach

    Exactly 3 years ago, on May 4th 2016, I was skimming stones into the Thames on this little rocky ‘beach’ on the banks of the river, by my apartment. A lucrative contract with HSBC had allowed me to get an apartment with the most stunning views over London and my life was starting to improve.

    I had been an extremely passionate kitesurfer, which had taken me all over the world, seeking out the best wind and waves. During my divorce, having to step down as CEO of the company I founded, and the period when I was very unwell, I hadn’t been doing any kitesurfing. Living by the river on a part which was tidal gave me back the connection to water which had been missing from my life. A friend came to visit and was even brave enough to kitesurf from this ‘beach’ despite the Thames being a particularly treacherous waterway to navigate, especially without an engine – the wind was gusty and unpredictable, but he managed to kitesurf on a ‘beach’ right in the heart of Central London.

    Soon after this pleasant evening skimming stones into the Thames, I went away on a kitesurfing holiday to a desert island off the coast of North Africa, and had a very enjoyable time. 2016 was a good year. I made a lot of money and I had some very nice holidays, as well as meeting the love of my life.

    California rocket fuel

    Exactly 2 years ago, on May 4th 2017, I managed to trick my doctor into prescribing me an antidepressant combo called California Rocket Fuel. I’d had a rough winter where I nearly died from DVT which caused my kidneys to fail, and consequently I had lost a lucrative contract with Lloyds Banking Group. My life had been miserable, with a great deal of pain from the muscle and nerve damage from the DVT. I hadn’t felt well enough to be able to work.

    The love of my life was doing amazingly well in her career – in politics – and was appearing on an almost daily basis on TV, while I was limping around on crutches and taking a lot of very powerful painkillers. I was depressed and I wanted the very most powerful antidepressant I could get, which I discovered was “California Rocket Fuel” by doing some internet research.

    I have bipolar disorder. People with bipolar disorder are not supposed to take antidepressants without a mood stabiliser. Doctors are not supposed to prescribe antidepressants to people with bipolar disorder. I had to be extremely sneaky to obtain this prescription, and it was rather cruel how I manipulated the poor unsuspecting doctor into seperately prescribing me the two medications, which are combined to create “California Rocket Fuel”.

    The result was predictable: Mania.

    I went incredibly manic and my behaviour became erratic. I broke up with the love of my life.

    . . .

    That’s the end of the pictures

    . . .

    When I later regained my mental stability and reflected upon what I had done, I realised I’d made a terrible mistake and I tried to get back together with the love of my life, but my behaviour while manic had been so inexcusably awful that I had ruined any chance of that happening. Agonisingly, she said she still loved me and wanted to take me back, but her family, friends and work colleagues would’ve been apalled that we were back together again. “If you love them, let them go”… it’s been devastatingly hard, but I’ve tried to come to terms with losing the love of my life, and acknowledge that it’d have been very unfair on her to pursue her after what I put her through.

    I left London doubly heartbroken, having lost the love of my life, and leaving the city I’ve spent most of my adult life in. I love London, but it was time to leave.

    Since leaving London, my life has been erratic and unstable at times, but putting the pieces of my broken heart back together again and rebuilding myself to a position of health, wealth and prosperity has been a lot easier than it was in the capital. London placed an enormous amount of stress and strain on me, to generate vast quantities of cash to maintain a high standard of living.

    Today, May 4th 2019, I have a fabulous standard of living. Maybe I’m not going to be a millionaire CEO. I’ve loved and lost a wife and a love of my life. I’ve nearly lost my life during some very bad medical emergencies. I’ve nearly lost my mind. However, despite all the adversity, I’m wealthy, I live in a beautiful big house and I’m reasonably successful when I’m dating, so I see no reason why I’m not going to end up with a very enviable life. In fact, I already have a very enviable life.

    We expect our lives to take a linear path; continually improving as we get older. My life has been chaotic and unpredictable. My life has been through boom times and and bust in the most extreme way imaginable. I’m 39 years old and I didn’t expect to be alive this long. There have been devastating moments, which I thought would destroy me, but they haven’t. I thought my bipolar disorder would make my life so unstable that I wouldn’t be able to regain control and have a good quality of life, but my life is really awesome and it keeps getting better, although it does take a lot of hard work to maintain stability.

    I suppose this overview of an 8 year period of my life, told using 5 pictures, is not going to do justice to the complete story, which is full of hair-raising gory details, as well as some moments of sheer delight, but this brief synopsis does at least give the reader a little insight into who I am, without having to read all the [literally] million words I’ve written and published on this website.

    May the fourth be with you.

     

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