Tag: family

How to Break Your Children’s Hearts

This is a story about respecting your elders…

Who’s the responsible one round here? Who’s got to carry the can, at the end of the day? Who’s got to live with the consequences of bad decisions, and clean up other people’s mess?

There isn’t a class war going on. There’s a generation war.

The baby boomers drove around in gas-guzzling cars, burnt dolphins to stay warm, dynamited the glaciers, blew up nuclear weapons under the polar ice caps, and generally whizzed around the globe spraying deadly chemicals on everything and saying “FUCK YOU GRANDCHILDREN, HA! HA! HA!”.

I remember at school, when I was 10 or 11 years old, me and my friend Ben used to write long rhymes about saving the environment, and read them out at school events. We basically urged a modicum of control over the unmitigated climate disaster we saw all around us.

Growing up in the Thames Valley, huge numbers of my friends were asthmatic. Particulate emissions from internal combustion engines, gathered in the river valley, and in central Oxford the percentage of kids suffering from respiratory conditions was at the highest level in the country.

My friend Ben’s parents had responsibly given up smoking for the health of their children, but mine would not listen to my pleas to stop wasting a significant proportion of the family income on something that was destructive to the health of us all. It was selfishness, plain and simple.

I still vividly remember one time when I begged my Dad to stop taking drugs. “Do you expect me to be a boring old fart?” he asked, incredulously. The tragic thing is, that I didn’t need him to take drugs to look ‘cool‘. It was his own insecurity and pathetic attempt to impress young family members like my cousin Sue, that meant that he thought he was some kind of counter-culture hero, just because he took addictive drugs.

My Dad was adamant that I should not get to go to University, nor my sister, even though him and my Mum both enjoyed a free University eduction. My sister and I were both educated in state schools, even though my parents enjoyed the option of private/selective schooling.

My parents had substantial financial help from my grandparents to purchase their first home. No such help has been forthcoming from our parents, and indeed I bought my house without any financial support from my parents, as well as paying for my wedding & honeymoon out of my own pocket. My sister has – as a percentage of her income – possibly been even more financially independent than me.

As kids and adults, my sister and I have certainly been very economical, responsible, mature, in ways that my parents don’t even come close to. We’ve paid our own way in life. We’ve grafted harder than my parents could possibly imagine.

And for what? So that my parents’ generation can tell us that we’re profligate, reckless with money, irresponsible, lazy? My parents’ generation tell us we should save money for a rainy day, when the pensions that they draw bear no relation to the actual amount of money that they’ve saved up. The baby boomers are hoping to have hefty final salary pensions that far outstrip the amount of money they’ve paid into the schemes, to the point of causing a massive black hole in the nation’s finances.

The upper-class Victorians used to say “children should be seen and not heard” but those children were reared by wet-nurses, nannies and au pairs, plus all the other servants. If you don’t have servants to rear your children, you don’t get to say such obnoxious things, because you’re the only person in your child’s life.

Infant mortality used to be very high, so ordinary Victorians cherished their children. Having a healthy child was a blessing, and something to be celebrated. There wasn’t this strange culture of worshipping people with old-fashioned ideas, who sat idle for 30, 40 years, just criticising everything. Yes, we’d all like to retire and just sit around in our favourite chair reading shit newspapers and being mean to everybody, but the retirement age was always supposed to be just 1 year more than the average life expectancy.

Our economy is structured around the ‘grey pound‘. After the banks, the most powerful institutions in the country are the pension funds. These massive piles of money, managed by asset managers and institutional investors, for the benefit of their pension-drawing clients, decide everything about how this country is run. When we talk about things being run for the benefit of shareholders, those shareholders are mostly pension funds.

If anybody ever says to me “what have you given back to your parents?” or “be grateful your parents gave you the gift of life” I’m going to struggle not to scream in their face with rage.

My whole life has been generating value for shareholders. Every penny and pound of profit that I have generated for my masters has gone into dividends and higher stock prices, to inflate the asset value of a pension fund somewhere. My whole life has been toiling to allow the baby boomers to have a life of idle luxury, not that they’re fucking grateful.

But you know what? Things have gone way too far.

The older generation has fucked up the environment, fucked up the economy and demanded that young people suffer austerity, University tuition fees, job insecurity, wage stagnation, eye-watering rent, impossibly over-inflated house prices and listen to a sneering arrogant bunch of lazy grey-haired cunts telling them they’re lazy and stupid the whole fucking time.

They say you should be nice to your kids because they’ll choose your nursing home. Damn fucking straight, but you don’t get to have 20 years of idle luxury before you go so damn senile that you have to be put in a home, so that your hard-pressed children can continue working all hours to pay for your profligacy, laziness and arrogance.

Yes, it’s true that a huge proportion of wealth has been diverted into the hands of a few eye-wateringly rich families. However, WHO THE FUCK WAS ASLEEP ON THE JOB WHEN THAT HAPPENED?

Why the hell is it me who has to go on political marches, to demand that wealth is more fairly redistributed? My parents were too busy sat on their fucking arse taking drugs and reading books and newspapers to actually get off their lazy backsides and engage in the political process, for the good of the country and the good of us kids and grandkids.

Don’t pretend like voting to leave the EU is somehow in the best interests of the country and future generations. One lazy pencil cross in a box doesn’t make up for the idle years spent enjoying a free University education, job security, high pay, reckless drug taking, low cost of living, great housing, foreign holidays, new cars, superb pension and lots and lots of disposable income. YOU HAD IT FUCKING EASY, YOU STUPID OLD CUNTS.

As you can tell, this is a fairly calm and measured response to being sold down the river, and having my future destroyed by a bunch of people who won’t be around to suffer the global warming and economic depression.

Literally, almost everybody I know my age or younger suffers from depression and/or anxiety. What a legacy!

We used to sing “he’s got the whole world in his hands” but where is your fucking God now?

Tags: #parents #childhood #oxford #family #politics #capitalism

26 June 2016
Work Will Set You Free

This is a story about ingratitude…

Give me liberty, or give me death!

How do you like living in the free world? Freedom of speech, not that anybody’s even listening and you’ll never get into print. Freedom to work, if you can get a job, and you’ll have to pay exorbitant taxes. Freedom to do what you want, if you’re not dead and have any spare time and energy after working a job until you’re nearly 70 years old. Freedom to buy what you want, except you probably can’t afford it.

There: that’s the ingratitude part out of the way. Do I actually think like that? Some people think I do. You’ll have to read between the lines to see where I am being self-mocking, humorous, sarcastic and even a little farsical in the interests of courting controversy.

This talk of death and suicide sounds a little flippant, a little melodramatic, but in actual fact, it’s shaped my mindset.

I was always impossible to manage, and fearless talking to people of all ranks and status. I refuse to be cowed by credentials and hierarchy. I refuse to know my place.

If you were to just dip into part of my story, and try to make a knee-jerk assumption about me, you might assume that I think I’m better than other people. You might think I’m an entitled snob, a spoiled little brat. You would have misjudged me, and instead you’ve failed to understand that I’m coming at things from a totally different end of the spectrum.

I’m not claiming that I’m hard done by and that I’ve made my own luck and worked my way up from the bottom. On closer examination, these claims always prove to be horse-shit. When we look at people who claim to be self-made success stories, the tale is always ridiculous. For starters, many of the ones I’ve encountered came from loving homes in middle-class families, with parents who had a profession, a job for life. There has been financial security and a good education, even if they paint themselves as some sort of working class hero.

My tale is slightly different. I’m judging things based on the experiences I had when I had nothing. No roof over my head, and no money. I’m judging life based on how close I came to death. I literally made a life-or-death decision… actually on a couple of occasions.

So, I write from a position of knowing how it feels to have nothing. I write from a position of knowing how it feels to have to choose to act to stay alive, or else inaction would lead to death.

Based on this standpoint, I judge things very differently. You might think I’m ungrateful to have a “good” job. You might think I’m ungrateful for my opportunities. In actual fact though, I’m just judging things relatively. I think to myself “am I more or less happy than when I had nothing” and “am I more or less inclined to die, than the time that I nearly died before“.

There’s a cold hard rational core within me, that could quite easily slice my veins open, in a sudden brutally decisive act, if I decided that the effort of maintaining myself in a state of perpetual unhappiness and struggle would be ridiculous.

As a subject of Her Majesty the Queen of England, I was indoctrinated in the state schools of the United Kingdom, to become a loyal wage-slave, contributing to stability, increase and ornament of British commerce. Does it give me any pleasure or pride to say that? No, not really.

My very first job was for a Ministry of Defence subcontractor, and I actively contributed to Great Britain’s military capability, as a naval power, to further their imperialist ambitions. Should that give me a lump in my throat when I see the Union Jack and hear the national anthem? Actually, no, it makes me think about the high price that is paid by the nations we have subjugated, in order to pay for the lifestyle I enjoyed.

Do people enjoy their lifestyle? Huge numbers of ordinary working age people can’t afford a house, a family, a wedding. Most ordinary working folks hate their shitty jobs and their long commutes. Most ordinary working folks fret about getting ahead in the work rat race, or getting their kids good exam grades so that they can die an early death due to stress-related illness. But the good news is that you’re not going to have to die in poverty if you drop dead at your desk, given that the pensions are in a meltdown.

It looks so hypocritical. The Westeners sit there in their sedentary jobs, comfort-eating themselves to death through obesity-related illness and giving themselves repetitive strain injury from their mouse and keyboard, cataracts from their computer screen and a bad back from slouching in a chair all day. Our short life expectancy is a function of stress, depression and poor lifestyle ‘choices‘. Meanwhile, the developing world slaves away, with the dream of attaining a western-style lifestyle. Supposedly, the West is the model the world should follow.

However, maybe we got it wrong. In other cultures, the smartest member of the family gets sent away to study and work, so that they can send money back to their family to support them. Isn’t that something to get out of bed in the morning? Being the breadwinner for your family.

Instead of the young, fit and active people being the economic providers, we have instead tipped our society on its head, where we worship the ‘grey pound‘. Since the pension funds became the biggest investors in all our companies, and all the wealth pooled in the accounts and property portfolios of the baby boomers, we now have an impoverished youth, who have a much lower quality of life than their mothers and fathers, and far fewer opportunities to provide for even themselves and their own offspring, let alone feathering the nest still further of their elderly relatives.

I went to the Southampton Boat Show last year, and instead of successful young businessmen treating themself to a toy, as a reward for their hard work, ambition and ingenuity, it was baby-boomers who were spending their kids and grandkids inheritance, as a reward for having created an asset bubble that has meant crashes in both the stock market and the housing market.

I know that all the pounds of economic output that I generate will simply disappear into a pensions black hole, to pay out final-salary schemes for a generation who have nothing but contempt for their kids and grandkids.

Would you toil and toil, if you had no prospect of ever being self sufficient? If you were simply working for ungrateful masters who called you lazy and stupid? If the wealth that you generated simply inflated asset prices further out of reach, concentrated in the hands of the idle coffin-dodgers who didn’t work to create the very assets that they own?

Since when did it become a bad thing to be motivated to work? Why should we be so fearful of immigrants, who are young, fit and economically active? The very language smacks of greedy hoarders who are like a dog in a manger.

Every year we have more students than ever before achieving the top exam grades, yet we print headlines and stories asking if exams are getting easier. Homework and the pressure to succeed is driving ever increasing numbers of young people to suicide, but yet it isn’t good enough.

The prospects for young people are awful. The minimum wage is lower, and they’ll never be able to get married, have kids and buy a house like their parents did. Why do we label them as ‘gangs‘, ‘hoodlums‘ and ‘thugs‘ and mock them for their materialistic attachments to modestly priced bling, like gold cellphones and other trinkets that cost a fraction of the homes and cars that their parents had as their status-symbols?

Why do we not see the link between demanding endless dividends on our shares and ever-increasing capital gains, and the need for corporations to suppress wage inflation, which impoverishes our working-age people?

There are many people who would say that I’m not entitled to ask these questions, given my six-figure income. There are many people who think I should just shut up and take the money, because it’s there.

In actual fact, I’m going further than just asking difficult questions. I’m actually putting my job on the line.

I lost two big money contracts because I refuse to be bought. I refuse to stay my tongue, just because I’m being paid a lot of money. Is it unprofessional, arrogant, reckless, stupid? Actually, it’s none of those things.

I struggled a lot with middle-class guilt, but predictably, I did very little about it. I used to wring my hands and say “but what can I do?” while reading the Observer and The Guardian newspapers, and having passionate discussions about putting the world to rights, while quaffing expensive wine in fine restaurants in North London. This was hypocrisy. The final straw would have been going on a sponsored run and doing some kind of gift-aid contribution out of my salary every month, to salve my conscience and give me some kind of sense of smug satisfaction that I’d played my part.

Instead, I went on a journey. I’ve been to the bottom and back again. You might think that my risk was underwritten by my middle-class family, but they actually turned their back on me, when I had apparently left my social rank and become ‘untouchable‘. I was disowned, disinherited.

I can never claim to know what it was like growing up in abject poverty. My parents might claim that they never had any money, what with my mum being a student and my dad working behind a bar in a caravan site, when I was born. However, my granddads were both professional men with good pension provisions, who were able to bail out my drug-addled hopeless parents whenever they really hit hard times. The same privilege was never extended to me. Perhaps I should have recklessly sowed my wild oats, and then pled poverty when there were extra mouths to feed, like they did.

A parent’s relief that their child is alive and physically healthy has no bearing on whether a person feels grateful to be alive. I didn’t choose to be born and I don’t want to go on living, if life is just endless misery and suffering. If you expect your kids to love you unconditionally, you’re just plain wrong. It totally depends on how you treat them, and there’s a real generational problem.

Handing over a planet and an economy that’s absolutely fucked, and then retiring, is pretty ridiculous if the generation who are going to have to clean up the mess, accept austerity measures and live a lifestyle that is unimaginably frugal, in order to allow pollution to return to safe levels. It’s a bad deal, by anybody’s reckoning.

It’s in my nature to question everything and anything. There are no taboos for me. There is no ‘respect your elders‘ bullshit, because the first question is “why?“. Why should I respect the generation that proliferated nuclear armaments, caused global warming, deforestation, pollution of the water table, an asset bubble that’s priced ordinary working people out of the market, an unprecedented increase in the rich:poor gap and widespread economic calamity and didn’t think about how they were going to afford their retirement, except by mortgaging the future of their children and grandchildren.

Why do I work? I can’t tell you, but I can tell you what damage working does to humanity.

The wealth that I generate goes to corporations, who pay it out in the form of dividends or use it to inflate asset prices, to generate growth for their majority shareholders, who are institutional investors – asset managers – whose job it is to generate yet more wealth for an idle elite who expect to receive final salary pensions and an amazing lifestyle, in return for having wrecked the world.

And you wonder why I struggle to get out of bed in the morning and get excited about going to work?

People that I’ve worked with throughout my career have read what I’ve written, and I’m slowly making myself unemployable. How could you employ me, knowing that I don’t subscribe to the groupthink? How could you employ me, knowing that I speak my mind, and have no respect for the instruments of power? How could you employ me, knowing that I’m not cowed by fear and insecurity?

I’m impossible to control, using the millstone of debt and the threat of destitution. For me, destitution is freedom. Freedom from the oppression of working a job that only serves to line the pockets of an ungrateful elite who have no respect for the workers of the world, and are only interested in a comfortable retirement at the expense of over 50% of the world’s people.

Obviously, I think to myself “I must take this down” or “I must cover this up” or “I must keep my mouth shut“. There’s a part of me that just wants to take the king’s shilling and let him call the tune, no matter how maddened I am by degrading myself as the court jester.

There is so much false promise. Work today and be happy tomorrow. Fritter away my cash on good times to forget about the soul-less day-to-day existence and futility of it all, is what I could so easily do. I’ve done it before.

I sometimes laugh at myself, so full of middle-class angst, but there’s a deep seriousness here. It’s just bullying groupthink to call somebody a hypocrite or a champagne socialist. The fact of the matter is, somebody has to do something, because we’re sleepwalking towards disaster. The middle classes are just about comfortable enough to write letters and furrow their brows with concern, but not enough to actually risk their jobs or their reputations and good social standing.

Every day I sit at my desk, unable to not think about the bigger picture, unable to put the futility of it all out of my mind. I think “what the hell am I doing here?” and even though I’m good at my job and I am perfectly capable of toeing the line and keeping my bosses happy, I inevitably start to rock the boat, just because I have so much barely concealed contempt for a system that so obviously fails to serve the bulk of humanity.

I’ve let a genie out of the bottle, by considering the wider questions that we face as a species. I’ve gone down a rabbit-hole of thought, and I can’t stop chasing that rabbit, even though I’m throwing away golden opportunities that people would love to have themselves.

Please try not to get caught in the trap of thinking this is a simple case of ingratitude.

My values and my work are really not at all aligned, and it grates with me, to the point where I really don’t give a shit if I lose my job, but I’m not stupid… I know that I only have to play by the rules for a short amount of time, and then I can let the world know what I really think and who I really am, before my horrified bosses get rid of me. Please just kill me.

Tags: #career #capitalism #banking #suicide #depression #parents #family #childhood

1 June 2016
Counter Cyclical
This is a story about being a contrarian…

I remember sitting down with a mortgage broker in 2007, and he said “just focus on the teaser rate, don’t worry about the interest rate after the initial 2 year discount. When your 2 years is up, we’ll get you another great deal!“. I said to this guy “you do realise I work with Credit Default Swaps, don’t you?“. Naturally, I ignored his advice and went for a deal that I could afford if there was a credit crunch.

I didn’t even want to buy a house anyway. I wanted to put all my money into gold, in 2005/6, and I had opened an account at a bullion vault and bought a small amount… at $550 a troy ounce. The dollar was also really weak so it was a cheap buy.

I thought the housing market looked massively dodgy and the amount of money I saw flying around at JPMorgan, in the credit markets, was ridiculous. Clearly, the bubble was about to burst and a store of wealth in a scarce commodity looked like the best bet. There were plenty of dumbasses around though.

In Cambridge in 2011, I read the original paper on Bitcoin. I thought it looked a damnsight more interesting than my startup. By the end of that year, I had started buying Bitcoins. I bought hundreds.

By the spring of 2012, I wanted to pump all of my wealth into Bitcoin. I was buying Bitcoins at $5 a pop. I was certain that there were big capital gains to be made in the emerging Cryptocurrency. Again, dumbassses didn’t see the potential, but even I frittered away those first Bitcoins that I bought, rather than keeping them as an investment. Unless I was going to make a sizeable bet I wasn’t interested.

Come the summer of 2013 I was running out of money. My solution: invest in Bitcoin miners and buy bitcoins at $100. I borrowed every penny I could lay my hands on and sank it all into Bitcoin. I offered to cut friends and family in on the potential rewards. Two friends let me manage an investment for them. My family wouldn’t give me a cent, even to help me keep a roof over my head.

An idiot – my father – called me “lucky” when I sold my Bitcoins for well over 1,000% return, later that year. I sold my bitcoin miners for a profit. I made money for my friends.

At some point, you’ve been “lucky” so many times that it’s statistically improbable that it’s luck, and in actual fact, all the analysis and reading, and time spent thinking about the macroeconomic environment, somehow seems to beat “luck“.

If I’d taken the advice of the idiots, I’d be working in a factory in the provinces for minimum wage, or I’d be dead, although the two things sounds pretty much the same to me. Is it “luck” that means I’m not? Well, I’m not arrogant enough to believe that it was smart choices or hard work that mean I am where I am. I know that I’m “lucky” to be alive, to have functioning kidneys, to have enough brain cells left to not be left as a vegetable.

How do you unpick luck from your story?

There’s a snobbery that’s coming across, and perhaps you even think I imagine myself as some kind of smarty pants. Well, it’s pretty clear from this tale that I’ve taken some pretty dumb risks and done some staggeringly dumb stuff, lately.

I like to think of it as some kind of karma. If your family treat you like a worthless piece of shit and a know-nothing waste of space, then why shouldn’t the wider world be a little kinder to you, and gift you the occasional lucky break when you really need one?

These are my fundamental rules for life:
- Be nice to your kids
- Invest in scarce commodities
That is all.

Tags: #banking #capitalism #parents #family
27 May 2016
Am I a Bad Person?

This is a story about how to lose friends and alienate people…

It’s remarkable what we assume, and what we’re unaware of. It’s remarkable how our opinions can be coloured, and prejudices triggered, which completely change our impression of a person, and the way we treat them.

I had declared myself as “fighting mental health stigma” but in actual fact, things like Clinical Depression are so damn commonplace that nobody bats an eyelid if you say you’re taking powerful psychiatric medication to stop you from killing yourself. In actual fact, I get more criticism for being medication free and letting my brain achieve its own homeostasis.

When I moved back to London, one of my oldest friends was incredibly sweet and understanding about the fact that I was struggling with my mental health. He took time out to read a bit about what Bipolar Disorder was, and was actively concerned with my wellbeing.

My friends are always playing catch up. By the time I was diagnosed with Clinical Depression, I was already having hypomanic episodes that were beyond the ‘healthy‘ and ‘normal‘ range of moods. Spending copious amounts of money, working ridiculously long hours, hypersexuality, risk taking… these things are not conducive to good health, wealth and stable relationships.

By the time I was diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder, I was already trying various forms of self medication. Depressions had gotten so severe that suicide was a very real risk, and hypomania had reached the point where I was starting to get delusions of grandeur, and was at risk of getting into money problems.

By the time I got free from the horrible relationship that was stoking my mood disorder, substance abuse was a big threat. When my divorce sapped my energy and sucked me back into the nightmarish world that I was trying to escape, I gave up and just decided to be a total junkie.

By the time I got cleaned up and back on my feet, word had been spread by my unpleasant family, that I was somehow untrustworthy, a waste of space, a lost cause.

So, I’m pre-empting all of that. This is a pre-emptive strike. I’m telling the world my very worst things, so everybody can get all that prejudice out of the way. I’m putting my worst foot forward.

I’m still here.

My friends and family are still stuck in the position of trying to deal with their prejudice, even though I’ve already moved on. I’m dealing with depression and suicidal thoughts, while people think I’m probably scoring heroin on a street corner and injecting drugs in some crack den.

This ‘lag‘ is extremely annoying. It means I have to deal with a shocked silence. It means I’m isolated, alone, with people who should know me better, thinking terrible things about me. The culture of fear that we’ve grown up in is powerful, and all those images that the media has put into your mind are suddenly applied to me… it wouldn’t surprise me if my own family has imagined me stealing car stereos or mugging grannies.

There’s a lag with me too. It messes with your mind, being homeless one minute, and then working for a massive bank on a really important project, all dressed up in your suit with people giving a shit about your opinion.

How can you go from being the lowest of the low, to the point where there are people who actually think that death’s too good for you, to suddenly one of the highest paid people in one of the world’s most profitable enterprises, because the market value for your skills and experience is so high?

Is it any wonder that it messes with your mind? Is it any wonder that your brain doesn’t know whether you’re a worthless piece of shit, and the world would be better off if you were dead, or if actually you deserve a 6-figure salary, and people are telling you that what you’re doing is really important and you’re a key figure in the delivery of a super important project. How are you supposed to reconcile that?

Just saying that I should remain “grounded” is ridiculous. I have no frame of reference. I have no evidence to suggest that any possible conclusion I could reach would be the right one. Everything that my experience has taught me has been counter-intuitive.

Working hard, being humble, keeping my head down has gotten me nowhere. It hasn’t led to greater happiness, more stable mental health, nor has it repaired damaged friendships and improved my relationship with my family.

Equally, taking reckless risks with my health & wealth has brought surprising results. Instead of being dead or destitute, I actually ended up making a fantastic group of friends, as a result of winding up homeless on Hampstead Heath, just after my birthday in 2014. In actual fact, being chucked onto the street by Camden Council ushered in one of the happiest periods of my life in many recent years, probably since I was in Cambridge in 2011.

I don’t see any of what I’ve done as wrong. I’ve not resorted to lying, cheating, stealing. I’ve not screwed people over, manipulated them or in any way committed any offensive act against anybody.

However, people seem to take it very personally, when I apparently screw up my opportunities. One of my closest friends was absolutely besides himself when I lost my contract one Christmas. He thought I had deliberately sabotaged it. He was angry that I had seemingly chucked away a golden opportunity.

Things aren’t so clear-cut. I’m rarely in a fit state to work. Either I’m suffering from depression, hypomania, or the exhaustion and cognitive impairment of recovery from stimulant abuse. I just don’t have the time and money to properly prepare my mind and body for work, so my colleagues and bosses get a rather fucked up version of me, with all the weird highs and lows associated with an extreme mood disorder.

It’s not a moral choice, whether I work, whether I relapse, whether I just collapse in a heap and don’t do anything.

I know that people like to judge, and I’ve given away so much ammunition that it’s really easy to think you know my character, my morality. I’m very easy to label, to criticise, and to apply your prejudices to.

I’m fed up of feeling guilty, just because people are shocked and unable to see beyond their prejudice and preconceived notions. I’m fed up of having to carry the can for a load of blame and scapegoating that doesn’t even apply to me.

In some ways, I’m tempted to rob, to steal, to lie, to cheat… I’m being treated as if I do those things already. If I’m already ‘the bad guy‘ then I guess I should act the part?

People are more sympathetic to mental health problems like depression and bipolar than they are to substance abuse, even though the latter can be a feature of both of the former. I think the problem is the fact that people try and view it as a moral issue

Tags: #depression #bipolar #suicide #homeless #career #banking #friends #family

22 May 2016